[StandandDeliver]

On a serious note, I am planning a special day for myself doing a favourite activity I haven't done in a long time on the weekend before V day - kids are away and I am going to give MYSELF a valentines day to remember! And the best thing about this is I get to treat myself to the sort of day I would have always loved to receive from H, but he was not creative enough (or maybe thoughtful enough?) to arrange it for me - remember, self love first fellow LBS's!

[hyperglad]

Last year on V day my h got me Flowers and a card that said to my darling HG hope you have a wonderful day, love you always  then a few weeks later he took up with ow again. I gave him nothing and he will get nothing again this year.

I will not be a hypocrite he is not my Valentine unless maybe it is linked to the famous Valentine day massacre 

[limitless]

Hyper,
Your post made me laugh.
I will no nothing about Valentine's Day, as well.
Currently, my H and I are virtually NC.  It would make absolutely no sense to do anything for Valentine's Day.
Which means he probably will do something (no expectations - truly at all) - as currently nothing he does makes any sense.

L

[hopingfourbetter]

I haven't decided... kinda waiting to see if my husband gives me a hint that we will celebrate at all... I don't really want to, because it's awkward, even though appears to be home. We love each other, but I don't see many cards that are appropriate for the situation we're all in....

Perhaps an act of service, such as a car wash or something generic, yet thoughtful, like a Barnes & Noble giftcard with a note "thanks for all you do... take some time for yourself and enjoy a new book!" or maybe a Starbucks gift card "Just a little treat to show you how much I appreciate all you do....". Instead of a card, maybe just a personal note - short and sweet! Those are ideas geared more for women, I think....

Thanks LG, I have been wondering what to do. My wife and I love each other also but she has been depressed for a long time and says that she wants no gifts. I love gifts or prizes, I miss receiving from the W. It has been 3-4 years of no gifts for anything. At least I know how to take care of myself with gifts.

 Like you said about the act of service, My wife still does all the chores around the home as she has always done since we first married, of course I help a little but not nearly enough I am working on trying to help out more. But a gift for her acts of service I think she might appreciate, given to her on valentines day might work. I am sure she will be telling me this week to not get her anything for valentines day and to tell the kids not to get her anything. Thanks again for the Idea. Hfb

[xyzcf]

Have just found out my Beloved will be in town Feb 15th..thinking I should tie 32 years of VD cards that he has sent me and that I have saved with a beautiful satin ribbon and drop them off to his place of work. Ha!

[forthetrees]

I ordered two copies of the Mumford and Sons CD, one for me and one for him- it was voted top album of 2010 at our local alternative radio station. It´s the kind of music you can belt out at top volume while driving in the car and it has some truth darts along with supportive lyrics for both the LBS and the MLCer. I did look at the grocery store at the card section and nothing popped out at me.
I wouldn´t know what to write anyway. This way I can just give him the CD and say it was the number one album of the year- enjoy.
I bought myself some realistic looking silk roses and I´ll arrange them with some real greenery- a gift from me to me.

[SpecialK]

Nothing - I'm going to try and ignore the day - go to Body Combat instead 

Last year I have a beautiful card - 'To the Woman I love' and I was sent a dozen beautiful red roses, 3 weeks later it started to go wrong.

SKxx

[Metal]

I'll get a backup card, just in case too. Thanks for the ideas.
Think I'll try to find something to do with the kids on that terrible-night.

At Xmas, she didn't buy anybody anything. I setup the tree, wrapped, bought, everything. And I even gave myself some presents, and wrapped them, labeled to Myself from W. And I opened them while she was there too. She got a chuckle out of it, and so did I. But still, it did sting.

[BonBon]

I say get something just in case.  All depends on your situation.

But while you're thinking of them......Instead or in addition to, if you can afford it, do something nice for yourself.  Seriously.  If that's taking your self to dinner, go for it.  If you have some extra cash and want to buy yourself a nice pair of earrings or a round of golf, or whatever....do it.

Years ago, before I met my H, I was engaged to an idiot and the wedding was cancelled the night before...yeah, long story.  At any rate, I took the crappy ring he bought and traded it in, whipped out my charge, and bought myself a gorgeous ring.  It wasn't that expensive but it was more than I was used to.
I have it to this day and it always reminds me I can and will survive anything this life throws at me.  It was much more than just a little spoiling...it was a way to remind myself that I was important and deserved something nice.

Bonnie

[LoveMeMyself]

I had originally said I wouldn't do anything........no card, nothing.  So, while I was out shopping this weekend I ended up in the card section.  I looked and looked........even picked out a couple of "non-mushy" cards........put them back and walked off.  I talked myself out of it.  I wanted to be kind and sweet........sending him a nice generic card but then thought better of it.  My xH and I have very little contact.......maybe an email or text every 3 weeks or so.  My decision NOT to mail him a card was hard but I hope that perhaps it will occur to him that I didn't send him a card.  Throughout this entire process since he left me I had sent him cards........"just thinking of you" cards, Birthday card and Christmas card.  Time to stop and see if it makes a difference.  He knows I'm here and he knows how I feel.

Bonnie, I like your idea.  I plan to do something nice for myself. Happy Valentine's Day to me!