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#60: April 13, 2016, 05:40:52 PM
MB, just checking as part of your support crew. How did today go? Let us know you're ok.

LLL, hope you're ok too. Pop on those gorgeous earrings.  :)

H, has your W found you on HS? How do you know?


Take care MB. X
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#61: April 13, 2016, 07:46:40 PM
Cookie,

My thoughts on Brain, he's processing from the stressful day.  I've had him in my thoughts and prayers all day too!  I did the same thing the day of my hearing, so I get it.

He'll be back when he's ready.

Hope things went well today my long haired friend!  Lol

Big hug,

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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#62: April 13, 2016, 07:54:16 PM
Hope all is well. Thinking of you. ..
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#63: April 13, 2016, 08:22:58 PM
I am still married!

I suppose the fact that I take such great pleasure in writing this indicates that I am stuck or standing still or something but I take great pleasure in the way it makes me feel and the way it sounds when I say it.

I didn't mean to keep everyone in suspense. It's been a busy day. After court I stopped by my BIL and SIL's house to share the good news, then I came home and went for a 7 mile run that included 4 400s at about a 6:00 per mile pace and 4 800s at about a 6:40 per mile pace. Afterwards I stopped to check in on D32 who is in bed with the flu and to give her the good news. I just finished a late supper and I still have weights to lift but there were lots of crazy making things that occurred today so I'll try to find some time to post about them later after I've had a chance to process them.

Thanks to everyone for thinking about me and supporting me. Today has been a rough day. Before I go I want to comment on LLL's post because it touched a sore spot for me.

Re the stalker: it frustrates me that as a society we tend towards dealing with the inappropriate behaviour of men by controlling the behaviour of women so its brilliant that you took action that focussed on the guy rather than expecting your granddaughter to change the way she lives her life. It's disappointing though that it takes another man telling him to stop before he sees his behaviour has consequences, rather than listening to the girl telling him to stop. The woman's voice remains unheard and not respected. She shouldn't need to send another man in to rescue her but  I'm so pleased your GD said something and didn't try to handle this on her own.
I see this more as a case of the strong abusing the weak until somebody stronger steps in. I think this kid is like all men who abuse women. At his core you'll find a bully and a coward who views women as being weaker than him. But the weak, male or female, are regularly abused and exploited by those who are stronger, whether physically or financially or in some other way, and I abhor this. It's repellent and it's why we have laws and police. And, in some cases, grandpas.

The woman's voice remains unheard and not respected.
Too often this is true. I raised two daughters and a granddaughter and I dearly love all of them and they deserve a lot better. I think if God would have realized how things would turn out she would have made some different choices when she made men and women.

LLL, It's still the 13th here but I'll be sending good thoughts your way for the rest of today and for all of the 14th. I'm sorry you're not celebrating your anniversary properly with your husband and family.

Ok, I'm going to get off my soapbox that LLL put me on and go lift some weights so I'll be prepared when the next lowlife comes along.
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#64: April 13, 2016, 08:25:23 PM
You sound great MBIB. Glad this day is behind you!
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#65: April 13, 2016, 10:40:47 PM
No howling then MB! Sleep well.  :)
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#66: April 13, 2016, 10:52:43 PM
So happy for you, MB!!!

Not even remotely the same thing, but I had an appointment with the vet today, that I was not looking forward to, either. My H and I took our doggy together.

Ended up being a good connection day with H. And I still have the doggy, too!

So I guess today is the day of gifting ....another day! :-)
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#67: April 13, 2016, 11:03:03 PM
No howling tonight Chookie. I'm off to bed and I have a pile of unfolded laundry to keep me company.

Onward, I'm glad you had a good day with your wife and your doggy is still with you. That's the oddest thing about today. I had a really good day with my wife today and I believe she had a really good day with me. At divorce court.  :P
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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#68: April 14, 2016, 12:02:03 AM
It's can be all so weirdly surreal can't it!

My H and I went and had a really pleasant coffee and chat after our financial mediation session.
We sat and chatted quite amicably over our D's hospital bed last October,me little realising a process server was looking for me to serve H's divorce papers

Too, too weird.
But I'm glad you are still married and that it was a "good" day


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Re: Catching Up, Still Confused
#69: April 14, 2016, 03:41:59 AM
I am still married!

I suppose the fact that I take such great pleasure in writing this indicates that I am stuck or standing still or something but I take great pleasure in the way it makes me feel and the way it sounds when I say it.

I am so pleased it went well Brain and I so get your sentiments, as in my case, every day that passes without divorce papers being lodged, I am thankful for the same reasons 

I think if God would have realized how things would turn out she would have made some different choices when she made men and women.

God as a woman! ....That made me smile Brain x
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