[Thunder]

Anon it also seems pretty common for the OP to be a co-worker.

[UnconditionalLove]

The OW or should I say child (20 years younger) was a student of my EX husband.  He was asked to help her with a research project and the rest is history.

[Penelope2018]

My xh's ap was an employee who is also 20 years younger than him. He's older than her mother  . I wonder if she'll be worried he'll hit on her mom. That's a disturbing thought.

I think I'm in acceptance now but I'm not sure. I rarely get angry anymore. In fact, when I think about the things he's done, I imagine I should be but I can't. Definitely past denial. I know bargaining is out of the question. I will never beg for him. Not worth it. I've only cried in front of him once during this ridiculous situation and it hurt my pride. Never again.

[Rising Phoenix]

H ow is a younger coworker. Never been married and no kids she is 37 and h is 52 xx

[Milly]

Penelope, I cried in front of my H once over OW, and it hurt my pride, mainly because he walked away and left me crying in the middle of a field.

I rarely cry any more, rarely feel much anger any more, bargaining is all done with, not bargaining ever again. I hope these are good signs.

[Seahorse]

Anon it also seems pretty common for the OP to be a co-worker.

Yes, younger and co-worker

My H graduated high school the year his ow was born!   

Sea

[Disillusioned]

Anon it also seems pretty common for the OP to be a co-worker.

Yes, younger and co-worker

My H graduated high school the year his ow was born!   

Sea

MOM was a few years younger and a co worker as well.  Also, in a position to advance her at work, which I recently found out happened while I was working on financial disclosures and noticed her much larger salary.  I hope its everything she wanted.  It sure caused a lot of damage to get it.

I'm adding an edit:  I dont believe the affair was motivated by a desire to move up.  She didn't need to do that to be promoted.  She's a very capable, intelligent woman. 

[Thunder]

Well they say about 70/79% of affairs happen with a co-worker.

[Seahorse]

Interesting - when we lived in our previous state, all the co-workers knew that he loved his wife and kids and we were known as quite the family.  Often the co workers (all female) told me how much H talked about me (good stories) and how much he loved his family life.

Only when we moved, and the female coworkers weren't aware of this did everything seem to lead to H being able to move into an affair situation.  It's interesting to me...

Sea

[MyBrainIsBroken]

OM is a co-worker who is at least 5 years younger than my wife, almost 10 years younger than me.

I should have known something was going on a couple of months before BD when my wife was very excited about the possibility of becoming a union representative, something she had never had any interest in. The OM is not a teacher, he's a technician, but he's the president of the school union.

My apologies to anyone who serves in a union position. I've done so myself and I know most people who do are dedicated volunteers but being union president is a perfect position for a narcissist like the OM. It sounds very prestigious, is relatively easy to achieve because very few people actually want to be union president, and it protects him from his bosses who I have been told all hate him. He was demoted at work a few years before BD and I've been told he would have been fired if he hadn't been union president. My wife also ended up being demoted about one year after BD.

My wife told me several times during our marriage that her coworkers would tell her how lucky she was to be married to me and how spoiled she was by me. At the time, she felt the same way. From what I hear, the OM doesn't spoil her, it seems to be the other way around. Makes me think maybe she really has found her true love.