[Thunder]

hawk, her changes could be because she's in a different stage of her crisis. They do transition.  Go through a lot of changes.  Sounds like her replay may be ending.   Might be depression now if she is more moody and volatile. 
But, as you said, not good to focus on them.   


What I see is mine aging much more rapidly then I think is normal.  He still looks good physically but much more graying and wrinkles on his face he never had before.  Tired look in his eyes.

[Velika]

I feel that Ben Affleck is poster child for what MLC does to a person's appearance:

http://www.justjared.com/2016/09/04/ben-affleck-takes-care-of-kids-while-estranged-jennifer-garner-is-at-film-festival/

Here he is in 2011:
http://m.zimbio.com/pictures/Wi2qvHehc6G/2011+Palm+Springs+International+Film+Festival/cagXuGETm3k/Ben+Affleck

This actually is very heartbreaking for me to see as I really can see so many of the same changes in my husband.

[UrsaMajor]

What I see is mine aging much more rapidly then I think is normal.  He still looks good physically but much more graying and wrinkles on his face he never had before.  Tired look in his eyes.

Actually, that sounds like me too and I am NOT in an MLC... just the victim of one 

[Thunder]

UM, yes there is that.

We are under stress too and that probably ages us as well.   

[hawk]

Weird , l look 10 yrs younger and better than l did 10 yrs ago now.
Don't ask me how that happened l haven't done much, lost some weight maybe.
l'm amazed l don't look 20yrs older if anything, actually l'm amazed l'm not comfortably numb in an asylum somewhere tbh.

[MyBrainIsBroken]

Hawk, I went to the grocery store tonight. There's a young woman who works the register there who likes me. She's probably in her early thirties, attractive, and has a very nice personality. Whenever I see her she comes right over to talk to me.

I went through her register tonight when I was checking out. On Tuesdays the store has a senior citizen discount. She looked at me and asked "You're not over 55, are you?" When I told her I was she said "Wow. I would have never guessed. You look really good!" She got flustered after I said "Maybe I shouldn't have admitted it" and lost track of what she was doing. I think she was blushing, too. It was kind of cute.

But I think if my exterior was as ugly as my interior often feels people would run when they saw me coming. 

[hawk]

Well there you go b , a nice boost is always welcome l say.

But isn't it strange how we're the ones that go through this ugly thing yet the mlcers are the ones that seem to end up looking like sh@y. yet they're suppose to be all happy in their new life,

[MyBrainIsBroken]

If there's one thing I'm certain about, it's that they aren't happy. They may wear a happy mask and they may occasionally experience euphoria caused by their Replay activities but they're not happy, They're depressed, confused, irritable, angry, probably lonely, and feeling pain, guilt and shame and they're spending their time with loser OPs and their loser friends. It's no wonder they fall apart physically.

[Brokenharted]

XW went on diet pills and water pills 2 months before bomb drop, she lost about 40lbs within 6 months. I noticed that she was on WebMD looking up Hemorrhoids as she was having problems that required a doctor visit. She also had sores in her mouth and throat. I believe that was due to not drinking enough water. Here lately she looks to have put some of the weight back on.

Also, irritability and anger issues directed toward the boys as I have distanced from her and am not a target anymore.
She also show a lot more wrinkles in her forehead- due to weight loss?
No twinkle in her eyes and dark circles under them.
More frequent smoking. More trips to the casino.
In the past she refused to use public toilets, now she uses them frequently and is in there longer- doing #2 I assume, probably from having stomach issues that she told me about.
Skin rashes too.
She has been missing a lot of work or work will allow her to "work from home". I don't know how she keeps her job.
We had a talk about the boys and during this talk she had a finger in her mouth- I knew that this conversation wouldn't register in her mind and I stopped it immediately and left.
I've been told by 3 mutual friends that she has aged so much in the last year, I see it too.

[Beacon]

Do women MLCers look better or worse? My SIL had a MLC. She now gets fillers in her face so it's hard to tell ... But I have seen some comments on male LBS forms about their MLC wives looking really good. Is this not right? (I know women have more tools like makeup.)

I would say that my MLC W looks worse. I can see that the stress and turmoil have taken a toll. She has lost a lot of weight which she says is from exercising and eating healthier. I think she is too skinny and she always has dark circles under her eyes. She always mentions when she is with me that she doesn't sleep. She often times has sores on her face/mouth either acne or just from picking. She certainly has had some work done (Botox) to make herself look better but sometimes you can't hide the stress.