DenJef, I agree with MD, thank you so much for responding. You have no idea how much your response meant to me. I read and read and re-read and re-read your response to my question.
This is so utterly heartbreaking that it has come to this in our marriage, but yet, we have someone like you to get us through this. OMG, you have been given this gift of insight through firsthand knowledge that God has given you, DenJef, and now you are going through it first-hand yourself.
There is some signal out there for you, DenJef ... I'm not sure what, but you have been a life savior for so many of us on here. Truly. I will read your words tonight over and over. Thank you. I know my H's issues are not my problem.