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#20: January 30, 2018, 02:03:19 AM
Hi OldPilot,

I was wondering how to turn my new thread pink?

I asked Anjae who is no longer a Mod but at the time, she mentioned putting my thread on a watchlist and that my H and I should have been working toward reconnecting for at least 6 months and that would have been June/July 2017.

We are still reconnecting and I believe rebuilding at this time.

Would appreciate feedback on this.

Thanks, peace and strength  :)



Edit - Answered on your thread - OP
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#21: January 31, 2018, 10:00:45 AM
Oops...just noticed my thread title spelling mistake  ::)
Could one of the mods correct the title from Archimedian Point to Archimemedean Point please, or it will just bug me!

Edit - Fixed - I hope - OP
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#22: February 19, 2018, 07:58:37 AM
HOW WOULD YOU KNOW IF A MIDLIFE CRISIS IS OVER AND THEY JUST DIDNT CHOOSE TO COME HOME?
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#23: February 19, 2018, 09:03:03 AM
Quote from: Keep believing on February 19, 2018, 07:58:37 AM
HOW WOULD YOU KNOW IF A MIDLIFE CRISIS IS OVER AND THEY JUST DIDNT CHOOSE TO COME HOME?
My opinion is that their actions would show you this.
What makes you think the crisis is over?
Have they made amends with their children or other significant people in their lives?
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#24: February 22, 2018, 06:34:34 AM
Well ithought he was reconnecting with old friends and the kids but an ammends so to say. No
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#25: March 06, 2018, 04:37:12 PM
There are so many stories of mlcers explaining what its like to be in crisis, could you put them in one thread. I know there is a thread for this but there are  many stories on this site and different threads it is all mixed up. I remeber resding one about a man married to phoenix and one about a man spelling out starbucks.  I dont know where they are now. Thanks
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#26: April 23, 2018, 06:14:25 AM
Hi,

Could one of the moderators look at my thread?  I think I'm almost ready for a pink icon, but would like your opinion and thoughts, please.

Thank you!
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#27: April 23, 2018, 07:42:14 AM
Sure sounds like you're reconnecting to me.   :)


Edit - I added a link on your thread in  regards to this - OldPilot
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#28: September 11, 2018, 03:30:22 AM
Not Sure if this is the right place to post, but any chance of a mentor please.
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Re: Ask a Mentor 9
#29: September 11, 2018, 05:40:42 AM
I would also like a mentor please  :)
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