[Velika]

I did NOTHING to him....only her, but of course made it about him as well....

I left a snarky letter in her mailbox about Affairing Down.  It described exactly why, and how, she was/is an Affair Down.  I left my letter, along with RCR's article on Affairing Down, and 4 pix of me & H.  I love RCR so much that I figured I'd share her brilliance!

Snarky yes, albeit quite informative! Ha ha

Anyway that got me arrested for harassment....and, knowing he needed legal smut against me, he finagled his way into the fray.

The weird thing is that I don't regret any of it AT. ALL.

Oh wow, what state are you in? My ex OW has routinely contacted me with unwanted texts, a letter, and even flowers. (On my birthday.)

Was it harassment because it was negative? I don't understand. People send negative mails/posts/etc. all the time.

I would consider, since he was violent toward you, to still get a restraining order. It is possible the earlier abuse was him on a decline. I think many of us can see that the first symptoms predated bomb drop.

[Velika]

Of course your comment caused a backlash, megogirl. What were you expecting?
Guess I'm the only LBS with a scary Monster.  Why does RCR make it seem otherwise, like all MLC'ers are Monsters?

You're not the only one. There are lots of scary ones, sadly.

[Anjae]

I did NOTHING to him....only her, but of course made it about him as well....

I left a snarky letter in her mailbox about Affairing Down.  It described exactly why, and how, she was/is an Affair Down.  I left my letter, along with RCR's article on Affairing Down, and 4 pix of me & H.  I love RCR so much that I figured I'd share her brilliance!

Snarky yes, albeit quite informative! Ha ha

Anyway that got me arrested for harassment....and, knowing he needed legal smut against me, he finagled his way into the fray.

The weird thing is that I don't regret any of it AT. ALL.

You did what? And included a RCR article that will be traced back to HS? HS is a safe space for LBS. It is not for MLCers and their alienator to be aware of. You have put us all in danger. Either careless LBS or LBS with too controling and snoopy MLCers allowed their MLCer and alienators to come here, at times even creating an account.


You may be a big fan of RCR, but you got it all wrong. RCR clearly says to not to mess with OW/OM, to stay away form them and ignore them.

You also don't understand that by getting to your husband's OW you are only making him stick more to her and treat you worst.

Look, you may had been upset, but you were out of line with that snarly letter on OW's mail box. It can been seen as harassment. And it was. You were the perfect example of the woman scorned, of the crazy ex-wife.

If I was a MLCer, I would also have used it agains you. What were you (not) thinking?

You may not regret it, but you can't complain you got arrested for harassment. You harassed someone and when down to OW's level.

You need to gain self-respect, Mego.


Yes, V, People send negative mails/posts/etc. all the time, and then, sometimes, they find themselves in real troubles, including arrested.

[megogirl]

Was it harassment because it was negative? I don't understand. People send negative mails/posts/etc. all the time.

LOL I guess you could say it was "negative"....I just pointed out all the facts I had that I'd identified as an "Affair-Down" (ie. that she was a divorcee at only 33 yrs.)

Anyway, it was probably harassment but again, she'd been "annoying" to me for over a year (that's the legal definition of harassment) so I've zero regrets......

[megogirl]

Look, you may had been upset, but you were out of line with that snarly letter on OW's mail box. It can been seen as harassment. And it was. You were the perfect example of the woman scorned, of the crazy ex-wife.

Are you kidding me?!?

You just used the words "out of line" to someone who has been BANGING MY HUSBAND since summer 2016.

If they call me want to a "crazy wife"....so be it!

All I had was my ability to write....so I did!
 

[Nas]

How does being a divorcee at 33 make someone a lesser person? There are many lbs here who were divorced young and then remarried.

She’s an affair down simply by virtue of the fact that she was willing to be involved with a married man and break up a family. But I don’t get the thinking that her having a previous divorce factors in at all.

I also have to agree, leading an MLCer to this site is really not a great thing to do.

[megogirl]

No he's known that I've followed RCR since 2016, so it was nothing new......

And I just pointed out how her status as 33-year-old divorcee was pathetic and sad so, yay.....here's someone in a LONG-TERM MARRIAGE!

[Anjae]

Being a divorcee at 33 is what makes her an affair down? How exactly do you think someone will react being told that they are an affair down, even if they are one? Not well, I would say.

And, like Nas said, e many lbs here who were divorced young and then remarried. There are also LBS here 33, younger or a litlle old you found themselves divorced because of MLC.

You just used the words "out of line" to someone who has been BANGING MY HUSBAND since summer 2016.

You were out of line. The fact that OW has been sleeping with your husband since summer 2016 does not negate you were our of line. You were so out of line you were arrested for harassment.

All I had was my ability to write....so I did!

No, you had the ability to take the high road and stay out of it. You don't regret what you did, fine, but please stop trying to makes be sorry you were arrestd for harassment. You seem to like drama as much as your MLCer and his OW.

Not just leading a MCLer, leading the OW as well. Terrible thing to do to us all.

Your behaviour is very, very strange and troubling. In every way and sense. Including your MLCer knowing you've followed RCR since 2016. We do not tell our MLCer we are on a site for LBS.

You keep saying you admire RCR so much, yet you do everything she advices against and don't seem to have understood a thing of what she wrote.

[Thunder]

I'm sorry Mego, 

I wrote you a very long response and lost it. Dang.

Please just do not send him or her anything about MLC, they will only think you are in denial.

NOT worth your energy.

[megogirl]

The fact that OW has been sleeping with your husband since summer 2016 does not negate you were our of line.

Be that as it may, how unfortunate is it that I can not have HER arrested for harassing my very FAMILY?!??

This is just the hugest of WTF's....what's the cliche?  SLASHING TIRES.....I only wrote a (snarky) letter!