[MourningDove]

Bizarre, indeed

[Reallytrying]

I am definitely in a grumpy mood today. It was a tough day at work and it's frustrating to not have anyone to share that with some days. The kids are on spring break and we're home today. I texted s when I was leaving work and he commented that h was coming to pick them up to take them to the mall. I don't get why he wouldn't just text me to let me know - it's common courtesy. I might have chosen to stay at work and get some grading done if I had realized.

They get back from the mall and he has bought s 5 pairs of jeans. S has gotten taller and slimmed down so his pants are a bit loose. He apparently commented that s's pants were too loose and bought them. On one hand I don't care that he's out with his kids. But on the other hand I feel judge when he makes comments like that. And I definitely resent having him come in and be the hero. I know I need to let it go. He didn't see nor contact the kids all holiday weekend but then shows up today like the fun uncle. And who buys 5 pairs of jeans at once for a growing kid who wears a uniform to school.

S, h and I always watch car racing together. The race came on yesterday but we didn't watch it because s was waiting on his did. When they got back from the mall s commented that dad already watched the race. Selfish much? He knows s waits for him to watch it. Ugh. I'm so over him  tonight.

I'm going to my friend's grandmothers funeral. H mentioned tonight that he's going as well. No mention of us driving together which is a bit of a relief. Will be interesting to see whether we sit together or on opposite ends of the church.

[Never say never]

RT, look at the jeans as a good thing for you!!  Husband is trying to win son over, but do you really think son could care less?  I'm sure he doesn't think about it at all.  And, less stress for you now that you don't have to go shopping.

I agree about the frustration of a hard day and having no one to share it with.  All I know is my husband thinks I have the easiest job on the planet, so when it's a very frustrating day, I just think how miserable my husband must be to not listen to me or validate my feelings, and that just makes me realize once again how deep in MLC he is.  I then have empathy for him and move on with my day.

Anxious to hear about the funeral.  Who knows, who cares?  I would just seat myself wherever you feel comfortable and let him make the first move ... if there is a move to be made.  Who knows?  He could be trying to show his "good" side, so I wouldn't be surprised if he sits right next to you.

Keep us posted on that one...

[Reallytrying]

Never - we walked in together and are sitting together - though not sitting very close to each other. He thought I was going to work after - hence not driving together I guess. Who knows?

[31andcounting]

sorry you are attending yet another funeral Really~  nice of you but can drag you down for sure!  Add in an MLCer H and uggh!!  I believe it is time to take back your joy!!   It is time to focus on Reallytrying again! Enough of his selfish all about him attitude!  I am serious and I am sensing by your "so over him" remark you are ready to let go of the rope!!

How is the running going?  what about a night out with friends?  time to plan
something really fun and H does not need to know a thing about it. No game playing just start thinking of yourself first again!!

Just my 2 cents, ignore me if I have overstepped!!
(hugs)
31

[bipolared]

Just look at it as amazing that he thought of S for once, rather than himself.  And Uncle dad has to focus on superficial things rather than looking at the real damage he is causing.

[Reallytrying]

31 - it may not seem it based on the things I post but I have been pretty focused on me. His shenanigans are thankfully less frequent and they rarely faze me anymore. I'm actually in a good place in general where I feel relatively content. Yesterday was frustrating mostly because of work - he just sort of added on to it. So did knowing we were going to the funeral together - wasn't sure what that would be like. Just yesterday I let him know that I was going to Europe with his sister - had to let him know because he'll have the kids.

The funeral was tough. It was in the same church as our best friends was and grandma's grave was right next to hers. Brought back lots of good and tough memories. We sat next to each other and rode to the cemetery together. It was weird at times because most of those people have no idea we are separated. But I am very glad we went - I know it was appreciated by the family and stupid as it is our love of this friend is something we will always share (she was maid of honor in our wedding).

He left to go back to work. I'm on my way home. The kids are on spring break so I get an unexpected afternoon with them.

[KeepItTogether]

Ah yes, the fun uncle Santa Dad to the rescue! So annoying. I hate crap like that jean buying too. One time I forgot to pre-buy a lunch for S10. The kid barely eats a lunch to begin with and they have all kinds of snacks for those that don't have a lunch at school anyway which S10 probably would prefer. Oh boy, you would have thought I stabbed S10 in the heart the way H relayed lunch-gate to me. And mind you, I am the one who not only arranges for AND PAYS for the hot lunches, but also for the brown bagged lunches. But, if its any consolation,  my guess is your S could not care less about the jeans.

Sorry about yet another funeral. Hugs friend

[31andcounting]

Good to hear !!   The shenanigans can consume us!!!

I am sorry the funeral was so tough, reminders or memories or triggers or whatever you'd call it are very tough, will be interesting to see if H was out of the fog enough to feel it too! 

Try to enjoy your afternoon with your spring breakers
(hugs)
31

[Reallytrying]

Just look at it as amazing that he thought of S for once, rather than himself.  And Uncle dad has to focus on superficial things rather than looking at the real damage he is causing.

Honestly he's been thinking of S pretty consistently lately. If there usxreconnection occurring it is definitely between h & S.

Ah yes, the fun uncle Santa Dad to the rescue! So annoying. I hate crap like that jean buying too. One time I forgot to pre-buy a lunch for S10. The kid barely eats a lunch to begin with and they have all kinds of snacks for those that don't have a lunch at school anyway which S10 probably would prefer. Oh boy, you would have thought I stabbed S10 in the heart the way H relayed lunch-gate to me. And mind you, I am the one who not only arranges for AND PAYS for the hot lunches, but also for the brown bagged lunches. But, if its any consolation,  my guess is your S could not care less about the jeans.

Sorry about yet another funeral. Hugs friend

You know exactly what I was meaning. Ugh. It's my issue though. I need to let it go. It is what it is right now and uncle dad is better than absentee dad.

31 - funny you should ask about the running. I fell completely off the wagon when I got sick. I've been walking consistently. H asked if I would mind taking S to practice today so that he could ride with his riding group. I'm using the opportunity to start back with the running in the park while he's at practice. I'm hoping I'm not too far behind where I had gotten to.