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#90: May 18, 2017, 08:42:15 AM
Yes I think there is something in the peace offering aspect. They are like little kids. Mine bought a power washer and must have power washed the house 10 times over the summer....after he moved out.  :P
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#91: May 18, 2017, 08:59:04 AM
At the beginning of my H's crisis, he used to bring little things home almost daily.  He was in monster mode most of the time but the 'gifts', usually just things from the supermarket he purchased on the way home - I think they were 'peace offerings' after his terrible displays of rudeness/anger.  He couldn't articulate so he came bearing gifts.  Maybe it's his way of getting back in favor?

My H did that for a while too. He would ask me always "Do you need anything?" In his culture this is the words people use to end phone calls and the like. It's a way of saying goodbye and sort of doesn't mean anything, but for several months he was always asking me if I needed anything. It was his way of feeling like he was doing the right thing with me. He would brag he brought me everything I needed so why should I be unhappy?

That stopped completely now. He doesn't want to bring anything it seems. He doesn't ask me if I need anything. He's worried about finances and he sends his sick mother out to do all our vegetable and fruit shopping and she comes back home barely able to stand on her feet and he doesn't even realize it. There were things he was going to get me that he seems to have forgotten about completely, a desk, charcoal for the bbq we built together a couple months ago, etc. He's busy I know with work but I think he truly has just forgotten.

It's just so strange how he has a new personality every month.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#92: May 18, 2017, 10:06:22 AM

I swear this is the most bizarre experience - I'm sure I'll be the one watering the plant 😂😂😂

Could be worse - at least it was a plant and not another pet to take care of :)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#93: May 18, 2017, 10:14:17 AM

I swear this is the most bizarre experience - I'm sure I'll be the one watering the plant 😂😂😂

Could be worse - at least it was a plant and not another pet to take care of :)

Oh no!!!!! Even his crazy head he knows better than that 😂😱😂😱😂
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#94: May 18, 2017, 10:44:14 AM

I swear this is the most bizarre experience - I'm sure I'll be the one watering the plant 😂😂😂

Could be worse - at least it was a plant and not another pet to take care of :)

Oh no!!!!! Even his crazy head he knows better than that 😂😱😂😱😂


Well, then that is at least progress ::)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#95: May 18, 2017, 03:04:51 PM
Make sure plant doesn't look like poison oak...lol   ;)
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#96: May 18, 2017, 03:46:09 PM
Make sure plant doesn't look like poison oak...lol   ;)

Lol. Thankfully, no!!!!!!
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#97: May 18, 2017, 03:58:03 PM
LH, SF, KIT, Goner - I hadn't thought about it as a peace offering. It does make sense especially since he has been very consistently reconnecting with S. he eventually told me that it's from a plant he already has. So he essentially took a piece,waited  for it to Spring a root, and then planted it for S. wasn't something he just slammed together yesterday.

The other weird thing he brought around were Tupperware containers. The other day when I went out and he dropped s home he left a bag with my Tupperware that he had at his place. I went through and 2 weren't mine. I initially was bothered that he could have brought crap from ow here. I handed the 2 that didn't belong to me back to him yesterday. He commented that he saw that I didn't have a lot so that's why he brought extra. I chuckled because i only have a shortage of containers because he uses them to take fruit salad. Still seemed like a strange thing for him to bring for me.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#98: May 18, 2017, 04:11:30 PM
OMG--your H does love his fruit doesn't he? LOL. Well, I have to say, it was actually quite thoughtful that he gave you extra Tupperware.
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Re: All aboard the crazy train - 9
#99: May 18, 2017, 06:36:15 PM
He is paying attention ;)
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