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#100: July 11, 2017, 05:44:26 AM
No I wouldn't either .....She did give them to him yet again she believed him . I tried to open her eyes and she now won't speak to me  :'(
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#101: July 11, 2017, 06:25:23 AM
Oh honey, she is just mad because you can see the truth and she knows you can.  She's in denial.

She'll come around.  You were being a friend by trying to make her open her eyes.
She will just have to learn the hard way.  It won't bring him back, like you said she is enabling him.
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#102: August 07, 2017, 05:22:51 PM
Im looking for a story of a man mlcer who wife he called phonix. It was quite long, he returned to his wife and his ow name was mj. Can anyone find it and attach please ? Thanks
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#103: August 07, 2017, 05:40:03 PM
KB,

Are you talking about Newman and Phoenix?
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#104: August 08, 2017, 03:32:04 AM
I think so.
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#105: August 08, 2017, 07:48:42 AM
I'd have to look and see if I can find anything.

I am still in contact with Phoenix and they are doing really good.  Their marriage is solid now.
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#106: August 09, 2017, 07:57:39 AM
i didnt realize you were friends with her. what does her h ever say about what the op ever meant to him ? why do they stay with them, if like my h says he doesnt love her and throws in there that question " how do you know i even like her?"  ( ummm maybe cause you have been with her 2 1/2 years.)  i would like to read the story again if you could find it. what is phoenixs advice to lbsers?
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#107: August 09, 2017, 08:38:13 AM
Oh her H said pw was nothing to him, but he thought she was for a long time.  He didn't really even like her and had no problem walking away from her, once he woke up.

Phoenix is a pretty straight shooter.  She feels the same way a lot of RCR's articles do, but she was strong enough to walk away from him, after the shock of everything wore off.  She was not going to chase him or give him any attention, unless he worked on himself and showed her he was worth taking back.

Actually, they still last I heard go to a MC about once every 6 months, just to make sure their staying on track.
They are happy though, and I haven't asked about the MC for a long time so I'm not sure they still go.

Sorry I still haven't looked for any article yet.  I'll do that this morning.
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#108: August 09, 2017, 08:45:50 AM
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Would you hook up with a married man?  I don't care what he said to you, would you do it?  Only pathetic, insecure, selfish girls will hook up with a married man.  Period.  Discussion over.


Sooooo needed to read this!!  My H's twat is the complete opposite of me.  She honestly reminds me of an oompa loompa from the pictures I have seen; they did not fit together AT ALL, so why her?  He even asked me that question, but kept saying how incredibly nice she was.  "She's really a nice person."  Yeah I'm sure she is so she can land her a married military man.  She wouldn't have to go to school anymore and could move her and her spawn here to mooch off of him.  That b!tc# is completely happy with the chaos she has helped create.  ::)
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#109: August 09, 2017, 09:58:01 AM
One question that has interested me for awhile. I recently started to do a bit of online dating. I find it hard to connect to another man quickly especially since it seems it's just online interactions or brief one time coffee dates. My question is how do these MLCers attach so quickly to the OP? Is it they don't care about who it is? It's just a willing warm body? Or is it just a thrill to attach to someone new? Like buying a new car is more fun than driving around in the 10 year beater?
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