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#40: September 12, 2017, 05:28:01 AM
Bren from what Ive heard (his nephew) SHES pushing for it, she's never been married so she can't wait, and the old wh*r^ wants to have a child, she's so screwed in the head she's passed menopause but still wants a kid lol
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#41: September 12, 2017, 06:28:13 AM
Bren from what Ive heard (his nephew) SHES pushing for it, she's never been married so she can't wait, and the old wh*r^ wants to have a child, she's so screwed in the head she's passed menopause but still wants a kid lol

It's quite interesting how most OW's appear to be the ones in control, the Mlcer's are quite often railroaded into pleasing them and do it....don't get thick logicall? Many OW's are also mentally damaged as well.  It is so script. 

I really pray his does not happen, especially for your babies..they don't need any more trauma.
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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#42: September 12, 2017, 07:03:32 AM
Thank u Bren, my children have made it very clear its them or ow, he doesn't care about what anyone says including his kids, he is forging ahead with what HE wants and its not his kids.
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#43: September 12, 2017, 07:56:08 AM
Chriss, that is so crazy.

If she's past menopause, good luck Charlie.  Not going to happen.   ::) ::)
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#44: September 12, 2017, 07:58:05 AM
Chriss, that is so crazy.

If she's past menopause, good luck Charlie.  Not going to happen.   ::) ::)

Thunder yup so theres the proof that she's just as effed up as him, the thing is I wanted a 4th child and he wouldn't hear of it and now he wants to give this hag a child??
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#45: September 12, 2017, 08:00:45 AM
Sounds like she's having a MLC herself to be so delusional.
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#46: September 12, 2017, 08:02:35 AM
Sounds like she's having a MLC herself to be so delusional.

Lol! that and she's so effed up, the fact she damaged my daughters car shows what a vengeful witch she is, good luck with trying to get her off his back, if he ever does wake up.
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#47: September 12, 2017, 08:55:16 AM
Lulu,

I could see your h asking that ow be apart of this if:

1. He wasn't STILL MARRIED TO you...
2. he was remarried to ow
3. your children are over the age of 18 and out of high school... and can make that choice for themselves, without your involvement...

Other than that..   I would tell him, see you in court... No way in hell I would allow my HUSBAND, to bring / introduce another woman to my children... while still married...

My son is 21. He decided not to speak to his dad, for a long time after bomb drop. I said WAY too much the first summer, after it all hit the fan, while s was home from college. I can't take it back.. but s did see alot of what his dad was doing.. so it wasn't all me, running my mouth! :) Now the tables have turned, s no longer speaks to me.. He can't be involved in both of our lives at the same time, apparently.. Puffy's rules, I'm sure.... I'm sure there have been promises of I'll buy you this s...

No judge, on this planet anyway, is going to allow minor children, to visit with a non custodial parent, on weekend visits with an OW and no divorce... What the heck is wrong with people's morals???? I get it, it's MLC.. but still... He must have a seriously large set of balls to even ask this of you and your children!!!

Stand your ground Lulu...

I have a childhood friend that is suffering from MLC.. He's dumped all three of his adult children and his now ex wife of more than 20 years... He's 44 now.. and just revealed on fakebook, that he and his 20 something pop tart are expecting... His youngest child is 21, his oldest just graduated from the military academy... His daughter is engaged to be married and is 6 months older than the thing he knocked up.... I've known this family, his parents, siblings, my entire life... Not a single person speaks to him, except his "new" friends, his family has completely walked away... and now he's having another child...with a child... and wonders why his children do not speak to him??

This is why.... because they do hateful crap to their children....Only caring about their own selfish needs and wants...

They make me sick... There should serious criminal punishment for garbage!!
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#48: September 12, 2017, 12:36:46 PM


This is why.... because they do hateful crap to their children....Only caring about their own selfish needs and wants...



They are totally oblivious to it all and the consequences that follow....it is just sad
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S21, S17, S16 (autism), D14

🌹🌹Let's be real...Bren is the only one who can do Bren. I'm the best Bren on the planet. Trying to turn a skank into a Bren? That will surely end in disappointment, if it hasn't already.🌹🌹

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Re: Anyone else have a vanisher? 10
#49: September 12, 2017, 01:00:33 PM
Mine married the OW - 21 yrs his junior, younger than our youngest daughter and her best friend (not any more!)

He was 44 when he left (4yrs ago).  I haven't seen him in almost 2 years, last text was about 3 months ago when he took some money (not much) that didn't belong to him (it was mine) told me he wasn't stealing it...but in effect he did.  Someone said he took it to get a reaction out of me...well it didn't work.

He lives 20 minute walk from my home and still drives his police car around my area.

Someone I know.. (I really don't think in MLC) is dating someone 20+ yrs his junior (same age as my daughter), she has him wrapped around her little finger.  At first I was disgusted, but now I believe they were brought into my life so I have a kind of inside view to xH and OW and it's not pretty.  She says jump and he says how high.... no-one believes it will work.

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