[OffRoad]

A regret is not that important to me. Having my money and assets back is.

Now there is a statement I can get behind.

[nah]

A regret is not that important to me. Having my money and assets back is.

Now there is a statement I can get behind.

True dat!

[ChrissYAH]

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/debra-macleod/midlife-crisis-marriage_b_14082654.html

I know which one I've dealt with.

[Rising Phoenix]

Me too Chris, no 2! She Also has a post re marriage predators re the damsel in distress. Yep that one hits home aswell. Xx

[Nas]

Self-serving manipulation, yup.  Profound self-indulgence, yup.

Interesting that she doesn't ever speak of it as a "temporary" phase or talk about it ending. 

[Treasur]

I do think 'marital terrorism' is a pretty good and accurate phrase

[Milly]

That article described perfectly how my marriage had become for a few years before BD.

[Disillusioned]

These articles continue to do a disservice to everyone when they gloss over female MLC because the "numbers aren't higher."  As everyone on HS knows, the symptoms and severity, the script, is the same.  Just make MLC a genderless disaster and start by gaining main stream acceptance by the medical and therapeutic communities.  It's still too fringe, and there are thousands of spouses suffering through it.  Where's my work mandated safe space as an LBS???

[Anjae]

These articles continue to do a disservice to everyone when they gloss over female MLC because the "numbers aren't higher."

It used to be seen more as a male thing, and, somehow, even if it is not true, it is still seen that way.

Just make MLC a genderless disaster and start by gaining main stream acceptance by the medical and therapeutic communities.

Agree make it genderless. Another thing we know on HS is that MLC also does not have to do with sexual oriantation. We've had several same-sex couples here.

We have several threads about MLC and the medical community. The problem is that MLC may look like other illnesses or some may just say "marriages end". Of course when we say our spouse become the strange, often violent, person they did i MLC, the answer tneds to be "there is something wrong with him/her, the mind is not right" 

It's still too fringe, and there are thousands of spouses suffering through it.

Not sure if it is fringe. One of the problems is that a midlife transition tends to be called a MLC. Unlike what is said in the article, a midlife transition often also ends marriages. Midlife transition, like MLC, tends to include an affair and the affair will end the marriage. The difference is that the midlife transition affair will not last as long as the MLC one.

Often, a midlife transition is not more authentic than a MLC. A bumpy midlife transition and a midl MLC are pretty much the same thing.

[Tyks]

I'm curious how many lbsers of vanishers believe that the vanishers ever remember us with fondness? He's been on my mind lately wondering if he is truly happy. Not sure why because I am usually too filled with anger to care lol