Shock's Sis. Congratulations on having the conversation with your ex. IMO that was a very brave thing to do.
Congratulations, also, on posting on the forum about the conversation you had with your ex. IMO, that was an even braver thing to do.
There are a few people on this forum who will simply never get it. Perhaps they don't even want to get it, because if they did they might feel forced to have some compassion for the MLCer. It seems pretty easy for them to find fault with everything that you do. I wonder what we would find if we put their lives under a microscope and started second guessing all of their choices. I suspect we could find a lot of things in their lives to criticize if we looked closely enough.
I hope you'll forgive me for the preceding paragraph. Apparently, you're not allowed to feel even the slightest bit defensive so I'm feeling a bit defensive on your behalf. I'm afraid I haven't yet achieved the level of emotional maturity that you have. I still have a tendency to react when somebody pokes me with a stick.
IMO, you're a wonderful person. This forum is fortunate to have you here. The world is a better place because you are in it. It wasn't right that you had to experience the things you experienced in your life prior to your MLC and you don't deserve to be treated the way a few on here have been treating you. I continue to be bewildered by people's intolerance. I hope that you have been able to go back and find that perfect, innocent little girl you once were before life treated you so cruelly and that you and her are able to make a fresh new start.
Thank you for posting. Reading your words and your gracious responses to the questions asked of you and challenges directed at you has made a big difference in my life. I appreciate you for having the altruism and the courage to post here.