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#50: August 13, 2011, 09:08:10 AM
Interesting to see how everyone is learning to walk the friendship line.
3 years in, I have found a comfortable place, for me.

Early on, H told me it was the friendship that was most important part of the R w/ho, that she should move in and would be a good influence on our kids, loved to cook and clean, and would enhance our M all around.  :o Duh, it was easy to draw a boundary there! But the "how to be" with him was a bit harder.  ::)
Now, I am pretty dark with him but I am there for him under all the 'stuff', but won't deal with his dramas.  For example, when he was complaining to me about trying hook up internet service with the "idiots from the phone co", I drew a line and said "Don't come here pretending everything is ok and that I will listen to your tales of woe about your nesting and shacking up with OW."  But on the other hand, When he sent me an obit from an old friend of his, I immediately called him, and listened to him talk about the guy. I knew I was the only one who knew what this man meant to him. I am sure ho sympathized, but our unspoken knowledge is so much deeper. Overall, I am cordial, like i am with a neighbor or the cable guy, ya know, nothing too personal, but if 'true connection' ( I don't know what to call that profound connection that binds us underneath all the crap) is needed, I am there.  (Life, death, illness,....rock bottom)

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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#51: August 13, 2011, 09:22:58 AM
LGO, my H also said to me during BD time that, if I was willing, OW could live with us and "sleep at the bottom of the bed"!  He told me that I would come to love her just like he had. He was serious.

You really can't make this stuff up.  They're sooooo bonkers.

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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#52: August 13, 2011, 09:26:41 AM
Trusting.....that is sooo funny!! I mean, where in that brain of theirs that they think that would be ok?
and  sleep at the foot of the bed????? really??? Was/is she a dog??? LOL!!!

I am sorry, but its so true, you just cant make this stuff up!! :) :) :)
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H Blocked xOW from contacting Him 10/12
Ended ALL contact with xOW Dec 26th 2012 (So I thought!) I filed for D June 10th 2013
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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#53: August 13, 2011, 09:31:04 AM
Yeah mine said why couldn't he have two families? Why couldn't he spend time with her for half the week, and me for the other half??

Wonder why  that couldn't work for me?? Don't think it would have worked for her either!

He was crazy to even think it could, but then yes, he was crazy!!
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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#54: August 13, 2011, 09:32:59 AM
  LMAO!! The visual alone.  Do we have to pat on the bed like we do for the dog?   Come on girl come on jump up! Good Girl. :o
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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#55: August 13, 2011, 10:03:57 AM
We should start a thread entitled "the craziest things our MLCers said to us at BD."  Would make for verrry entertaining reading, I'm sure.

We'd be shaking our heads and laughing them off at the same time!

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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#56: August 13, 2011, 10:05:58 AM
 Trusting, We had that thread. Scripts Our MLCers Read From....
 I think the winner was  "I know she's a ow but she needs me."
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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#57: August 13, 2011, 10:19:08 AM
OMG!  That is unbelievable!  I'll look for the thread.

Thanks!

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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#58: August 13, 2011, 11:48:33 AM
Not meaning to hijack the topic but.... just an intermission for leavity....


Also look for "The Script...animated" thread if you haven't seen it, and check out this bomb drop skit...here
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Re: Friendhsip and your MLCer
#59: August 13, 2011, 11:50:45 AM
oh yes LGO....The animated script thread......LOVE LOVE the videos....hehehe

But we are so happy....we are soulmates!!  :)
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H moved home 06/11
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H Blocked xOW from contacting Him 10/12
Ended ALL contact with xOW Dec 26th 2012 (So I thought!) I filed for D June 10th 2013
Moved out.

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"Never, ever be afraid to do what's right, especially if the well being of a person is at stake. Society's punishments are small compared to the wounds we inflict on our soul when we look the other way."

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