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#80: January 27, 2014, 08:33:40 AM
Lovebystanding can they be a narcissists to some but not others? I feel like he is that way with me, but not OW. He makes sure to wait for dinner for her. He leaves kids events early for her. He will move where she wants. In the beginning, he did let me make decisions, but now he is the devil towards me.
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#81: January 27, 2014, 10:38:39 AM
Quote from: Disneyme on January 27, 2014, 08:33:40 AM
Lovebystanding can they be a narcissists to some but not others? I feel like he is that way with me, but not OW. He makes sure to wait for dinner for her. He leaves kids events early for her. He will move where she wants. In the beginning, he did let me make decisions, but now he is the devil towards me.

They in full blown replay usually being very narcissistic. But they are different to OW/OM because they give them everything what they want, so they get narcissistic supply from them. And that is also narcissistic behavior. 
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#82: January 29, 2014, 02:08:58 PM
I ask because h gets the feeling and attention from ow but really he does whatever she wants. Moves where she wants, waits for dinner until she gets home, etc. our relationship was that I made the decisions and he said whatever. But now with me, it is I don't control him, he does what he wants, etc. doesn't matter anymore since divorce is final. But I was wondering.
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#83: February 06, 2014, 04:27:36 PM
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

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Re: Narcissists- article
#84: February 20, 2014, 06:57:43 PM
http://anupturnedsoul.wordpress.com/2013/07/20/are-you-a-magnet-for-narcissists/

I'm on a quest on how to NOT attract another one of these pricks! ;D ;D ;D ;D

This helped a WHOLE LOT!

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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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#85: February 20, 2014, 09:37:45 PM
Like that one InIt. ;)  It explains my NP X and NP OW.  Hey, the ones that fall for these men are genuine caring people...got to love that. :). X's lost, I am way better off, actually feel sorry for him. 
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#86: February 21, 2014, 01:24:06 AM
Feel sorry for him but DON"T EVER get sucked back in again!!! Empathy and sympathy and compassion are powerful emotion. And NO BASIS for a healthy relationship.

Time to have those for yourself.  :)
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: Narcissists- article
#87: February 21, 2014, 11:28:28 AM
I believe it is hard not to fall for these guys they tell you everything you want to hear.  Once you realize what is going on...you have already fallen for them.  My X truly does think he is God or superhuman...crazy.  He is way better than everyone and now in his crisis is not afraid to show it.  He really thinks he deserves someone to fall all over him and to worship him, which is OW and who care about anyone else.  It really is all about him and really always has been but in the past has been modest about his narcissism.   There is no hiding now and he feels like he has the right to do what he is doing... He deserves it. ::) his OW show the female NP symptoms...she did whatever she had to to seduce X.    How will this end up for them who knows if they are both crazy but it can't be good.  Init Iplan to stay far away from him, I am stubborn and don't believe I forgive or trust this man again.  I believe I am way too trusting never could/ want to believe people would play you like this.  I realize I am who I am and I know I am a good person. I will move beyond this, just sux that I have to deal with him for many, many years because of the kids.  I think I will fall into a nice routine where little contact will need to be made.
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#89: February 21, 2014, 07:40:52 PM
The ex is a narcissist BUT exow was a sociopath. He remarked he couldn't believe how SMART she was in regards to manipulating him NEVER encountered anybody like her before.

I told him "You friggin idiot you've been dealing with ME for 32 years! What do you think every woman is as honest as ME?"
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« Last Edit: February 21, 2014, 07:47:00 PM by in it »
There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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