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#40: December 23, 2013, 01:01:00 PM
Thanks for posting those rules to remember In It. I will read them daily.
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Re: No Contact
#41: December 23, 2013, 01:07:12 PM
I'm trying to keep them bumped to the top as much as possible.

 If people start on page 1 of this thread it might help more. Take no abuse this Christmas folks...
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Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

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Re: No Contact
#42: December 23, 2013, 01:14:57 PM
thank you in it

may i take this opportunity to thank you for all your advice and support on this site and to wish you a really happy christmas hugs hdic xx

and also to everyone on this site who is going through this nightmare ,x
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Re: No Contact
#43: December 23, 2013, 01:34:50 PM
Hugs to you HDIC.. you need a much stronger name for the New Year!

You are doing Great!

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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#44: December 23, 2013, 01:37:49 PM
i will try to think of one in it , and thank you  :)

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#45: December 23, 2013, 03:36:34 PM
http://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-no-contact-rule/

I thought this site had some pretty good logic involved with NC.

Please excuse the "exboyfriend recovery"  guys..I think this can apply to either gender..also has something to say about what to do when you have kids together

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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#46: December 25, 2013, 03:02:06 AM
Try to stay as calm and peaceful as you can if you have to deal with them.

If you have managed to stay NC please for your own peace of mind and sanity do this again today.

Merry Peaceful Christmas...and God Bless..
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#47: December 25, 2013, 10:56:16 AM
hi IN it

hope you had a good day i went to my sisters NC with h and tried my hardest not to think of him and the ugly trollop together.

had sarcastic text from FIL this morning but not unexpected and didnt let hi spoil my day , my son got me the most beuatiful card and some lovely presents.

my sister sent me a text to say was lovely seeing me and son and alway s such fun too  so that made me feel good and i just thought H YOU know exactly what you will be missing becuase as my son said in his card I ALWAYS MADE CHRISTMAS , he wont have that this year HIS LOSS.......

I hope everyone else had a lovely day thinking of you all with love hdic xx
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Re: No Contact
#48: December 25, 2013, 01:58:45 PM
HIS LOSS IS RIGHT!!!
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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Re: No Contact
#49: December 31, 2013, 07:39:13 PM
On January 28 it will be 9 months I have had NO CONTACT with the ex.

 After a 30+ year relationship.

I have never felt better emotionally in my LIFE! I know some here have been longer than that and some are just starting to try this technique. In my case IT WORKS.
This is not a punishment for them. It is done by YOU and for YOU to gain all of the "self's" back. ( or maybe for the first time)

Self Respect
Self Esteem
Self Love
Self WORTH

Happy New year..it could be a New Years resolution to at least try it. It might just save your sanity. ;)

(((((Hugs everybody)))))
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There are two ways of spreading light:
Be the candle; or the mirror that reflects it

Don't ask why someone is still hurting you; ask why you keep letting them.What you allow continues.

At some point you have to get sick of going through the same sh!t.

Women are NOT rehabilitation centers for badly raised men. It is not your job to fix ,parent, raise or change him.
You want a partner not a project.
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