[mercury]

Mine seems quite content with leaving  me and his D in one house and him and ow in another?!
Since he is not trying to connect with me, he is not a cake eater.

[Hope for Zen]

The cake eating fascinates me.  I do see my H as more cycling/confused than cake eating.  He is still early in his crisis and heavy in OW infatuation. 

[Rollercoasterider]

I'm presently running a series on Cake-Eating in the Newsletter. The last two issues started the series and it continues for two more issues.

[Hope for Zen]

I get the newsletter and have read and re-read the cake eating several times.  Thank you for writing on this!

[whatever]

My h was a cake eater at first.  Now he has made his choice and its the OW.  He wants a divorce and doesn't
want anything from me at all.  Acts like he only wants a realtionship with the kids...doesn't talk to me at all
unless it's about finances.  Is it still MLC or did he leave me for another woman?

[Rollercoasterider]

Whatever,

My h was a cake eater at first.  Now he has made his choice and its the OW.  He wants a divorce and doesn't
want anything from me at all.  Acts like he only wants a realtionship with the kids...doesn't talk to me at all
unless it's about finances.  Is it still MLC or did he leave me for another woman?

It is not yet a year since your Bomb Drop, thus you are still in the early stages of MLC. Cake-Eating is more common at the beginning and then is common later depending on the MLCer contact type--a Clinging Boomerang will cake-eat throughout, though there may be a reduction mid-MLC after the debris from Bomb Drop has settled.
The presence of cake-eating is not a requirement for MLC. MAny do not cake-eat.

[OldPilot]

Bumping up for Kristi.

[faithful with Love]

WOW..read all the post..Shoot Caker Eater is my H..actually i have no idea what is happening with him and OW. I just know that in the beginning he was with her every weekend till 4-5am and would come home and try to love on me. Now all that has slowed down WAY down.. but he says that he has told her that he will never leave me and in a year and 7 months now he hasnt. He said that she is not happy about it and wants to be more then friends. I told him that we can not heal or anything until she is out of the marriage. He feels that they can keep in contact and still hang out.. that is such an insult to my intelligants.. However he has told me that he is confused because he has feelings for her and wants to let her down slowly does not want to hurt her..but it is okay to hurt me all this time. whatever.. He is so cockey and full of himself.. I do see things slowly down as far as his going out and texting with her... but I still feel like I am in limbo and he is a cake eater still, and I am tried of talking to him about the affair, us, everything.. I feel lonely, disrepected, and unloved... and it is wearing on me...

[faithful with Love]

Good morning,
haven't been on for awhile but here I am again. Boy oh boy, what a mess, its funny the mess they create and we have to deal with it. Let's see... while him and ow are friends..yes I still get that...He only goes out on Fridays now but its still fricking upsetting. I am never invited and then the next day all over me. I have made many strides in not getting upset anymore and distanting myself even further from him. Oh adn did I mention he wants a divorce... he wants one but stay together... feels that it would be better for us? Better for who? him that way he wont be commiting a huge sin? Wont have to feel guilty? And I am still getting" one day I know I am going to cry about all this." I have not heard "I love you" sense maybe early March. Which is fine. I feel like there is something so different about us? Like we dont know one another anymore. Oh and here is another kicker... He found out that OW has slept with 2 more co worker sense involved with him but she wants him... He didnt mean to send me a text that was for her that said... You should be with Dave he can help you...Do you say that to a FRIEND??? They are so sick... And I can not believe he would love to stay in her company over me. Oh well... Anyway.. I said that he can have the divorce however he will have to file and I will sign but I will not help him in the matter. He was so mad because I will not help and go along with everything that he wants me to do. Said that I am making it harder. Whatever. I wonder if he will ever snap out of this but until then I am ready for whatever. It gets so old.The lies, secrets, the textingm, the whole new him.  I dont want a man like that. He will be 35 tomorrowand still no change..Been almost 2 yrs...Oh also said he never wanted to marry me. I guess after 13 yrs he still didnt want to but did..that hurt...so nearly 4 years of marriage have been a lie. together 17 in Sept I wonder how many of those years he loved me? I also wonder if this is a MLC or just a Nasty person who feels he can do whatever he wants to everyone. So tonight he will be going out and made a joke,,,I think I will pick up 3 girls..I just look at him and said go for it.

[faithful with Love]

 :PI was venting sorry.. but I know a cake eater.. and they love the cake and frosting..lol