[TopsyTurvy]

Law Professor & TMT you made me laugh for the first time today…thank you….I really want to punch my H, he won't need to do it himself. 

[PatienceGalore]

I was told yesterday:
"I have no plans to remarry, if you want to divorce me, go ahead!"
"What you do with your life is none of my concern, you do what ever you want"
I lurve my H!......NOT!

[Darth Obo]

Old thread so sorry for the resurrection, but thought this was interesting.....

Was talking to a former LBS who is no longer standing and no longer posting to the forums. Both of us have moved on and are exploring new relationships; both of our X's, who did not want us and never faltered on wanting a divorce have both recently scripted pretty much the exact same line:

"I can't believe you have already replaced me!"

Both of these women professed previously (mine many times) that they wished / wanted us to find someone else to be happy with! Well, they are getting their wish and now they don't seem to like it!

Morons!


DO

[gimlan]

Lol! My H has told me to 'move on'. I am still standing, so I am not dating at all, but today someone showed an interest in me, and I was wondering what H woud actually think/feel. I'll just have to assume he'd react like that. Hugs, Gx

[Dji76]

Got these just yesterday:
1. We r damaged goods (referring to her and I)
2. Stop making me out to be a bad mom (I offered to watch the kids Saturday night, made no mention of her. She mentioned she was gonna get a sitter. Hasn't had them on a weekend in a month)
3. I'm damaged goods, even worse than when I left my terrible f'ing parents!
4. I can't connect with people in a normal way.
    - I think this is in reference to not being able to meet a guy she's into after her ea dropped her!

[ruggedendurance]

Dji76,

It appears to be something that a person would hear from a 14yr old.

Drama?

It is the same kind of thing that I have heard from my XW.    She is the victim.    The whole world is out to get her.

I am the ruler of the whole world.

[Medusa]

I was infamously encouraged to sleep with other men (if their Pen!$ was smaller than his) and then told it "would be nice" if I waited for him to get through his crap.

Too bad the waiting part didn't happen.

[Darth Obo]

Got these just yesterday:

2. Stop making me out to be a bad mom (I offered to watch the kids Saturday night, made no mention of her. She mentioned she was gonna get a sitter. Hasn't had them on a weekend in a month)

4. I can't connect with people in a normal way.
    - I think this is in reference to not being able to meet a guy she's into after her ea dropped her!

I haven't got #2 yet, but I get the impression she doesn't like it that D11 prefers me and has a better time & is happier when she is with me. I caught her trying to get a sitter without first offering me the options which is part of our decree. Called her out on it immediately and told her never to go against the decree again or I would have her in court to enforce it!

She told her friends that I am in a stable relationship but she can't even get a date (jealousy?). Both her EA's dumped her, the first BF she had after we split dumped her already, she went on about 15-20 Tinder dates and the only ones that called back was a guy near his 60's and a loser she had to threaten a restraining order with (high quality there). She's got a new one that has his own serious issues!

They all hit this wall eventually. They are broken, zero relationship skills, looks are fading, they look like crap from the physical effects of the MLC/Depression, and the grass isn't greener! Such a shame!


DO

[PatienceGalore]

Yes, it is a shame and somewhere, these lost souls need compassion, because they clearly are altered beings, they are sad, lonely and broken. They make a mess of everything, driven purely by their emotions, they have MAJOR FOO issues that they have never dealt with, they carry family learned behaviours, some quite destructive and they walk away from the one person they should be with, and take all of that in a suitcase when they leave and the OW/OM get to unpack with them. No wonder the new relationships don't work. OW/OM don't need extra laundry to wash clean.I know we could all hate them for what they have done, but as the years go past with my own H, I feel more and more sorry that he is in this state and affairing down BIG TIME. I believe OW's own issues are massive and are probably going to surface soon enough. Then H will wonder what he walked out from.
I have no anger towards him, I can't, he is clearly out of him mind, so how can I be angry at someone whose mental faculties are no longer the ones he once possessed?

[Rosebud]

Agree they are lost souls and they compound their issues by walking away from their wives and families who loved them wholeheartedly for who they were and who would give them the compassion they so deeply crave.  But, as the old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

 I am not alone in thinking my H is completely off his rocker but he doesn't see things that way and until he acknowledges he has issues there isn't very much anyone can do to help him regain some sort of equilibrium.

For what it's worth, I also heard a lot of very bizarre reasons why our marriage was over including that he always took the trash out and sometimes I made MIL feel unwelcome.  Presumably, this is why "I love you dearly but I love you like a sister"?