[Dji76]

Point well taken Rookie... Sorry I misunderstood your post. Also appreciate you sharing your experience so I know what to expect and look out for. 

[Rookie13]

DJ..once intercourse has been established..all bets are OFF where the relationship now goes/expectations with most everyone....Lets hope 'psycho/stalker/broken' isn't hidden in them ( or us) in the first few meet ups as we all put our best foot forward 'in the beginning'! 

Not trying to scare anyone..but...'casual sex' is out there if your lucky enough to find it and you won't truly know til you try and break it off, most sexual relationships have more expectations, if they are 'sleeping with you'..odds are they are hoping to be with you long term in my opinion.

Key word is most...

[Mad Hatter]

Hey, I was laughing with ya! thought it was a joke...

I have 'been out there'....Started the same way you are thinking and it went good for about a MONTH! til she was scoping out my house to see if her kids 'could fit' too!

It was HELL trying to 'break it off' ...just say'n...

We ALL want to 'land' well...each with OUR OWN intentions...

(That was funny MeNow..lol)

I LOL'd pretty hard at this. You sir, tried to have casual intimacy / FWB with a Baby-Mama! Doesn't work. To quote the movie Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man:

"She ain't lookin' for a few laughs and some butt-naked sex; she done been a few laughs and some butt-naked sex! What she's lookin' for is a man; a father for her child!"

Either that or hypergamy kicked in!

Morale of the story, unless you're looking for something long term and willing to accept another man's spawn, best scratch Baby-Mama off your list!

[Rookie13]

Hey Mad Hatter, ( wish I thought of that screen name!  )

Baby Momma's make up a HUGE % of the 'realistically' available woman for our age..

Granted, some of the children have flown the coup and that is a bonus I guess as children do not want a new daddy ( or mommy) as much as we do not want new children. I still have a 11 and 8 yr old at home half time and would EXPECT pretty much the same for the 'otherside'..

I see how my own have handled my ex's OM..they 'get along' but have a deep desire to see him gone....

Brad Pitt might be able to pull off the 'perfect scenario' for a 'divorcee'.. But if you find a woman over 30 with out children then..well you fill in the blank...

[Mac49]

D

Dating advice following an MLC divorce.

Get checked first - Clean bill of health is a positive

Get fixed - I know three women you had crisis's at the same time that ended up pregnant - None stayed with Daddy.

There is a big difference between intimacy and sex - Sex is ridiculously easy just by being a straight, single, employed, non douchebag. Post MLC divorce sex is what you may be craving but intimacy is what your soul needs.

Be yourself, be a gentlemen, talk about them not you, and for God sake don't mention the X.

What you will probably blog is the sex felt great but it felt really weird sleeping next to them.

 Good Luck

Mac

[nah]

I'm trying to stay out of the man-cave but I have a question for mad-hatter.  Do you have a thread?  I can't find it but I love your attitude.

OK....back to your MAN CAVE programming.

[bipolared]

If you met a 40+ woman who was attractive, fit, and sane would she even stand out? 

Of course she would.   My sexual attraction radar would pickup a hot young 20 something faster -- but my brain and my emotions aren't going to be engaged in a meaningful relationship there. 

Regarding "all men are like this?" --yes we are visual creatures first (but not only).  I will point out something online dating has shown me -- women are too -- in one specific aspect -- physical height.  I'm a short guy -- while I can and do need to get myself into dating shape, there's nothing I can do about my height.   Women routinely say things in their profile like:  "I'm 5'5" and like to wear heals so be at least 5'10".   So returning to your question, in my honest opinion -- when I talk to guys one on one, they are worse than what you see here.  This is, after all, a mixed gender environment, with women checking in regularly.

I wasn't talking about the visual thing so much(although the preference for younger women is imposing) as the suspicion, I guess?  Like are all men going to view me as potentially crazy, money and status hungry?  And el, I am smh over that comment about height-I guess it is at least an easy way to weed out vapid stupidity.

[Mad Hatter]

I'm trying to stay out of the man-cave but I have a question for mad-hatter.  Do you have a thread? I can't find it but I love your attitude.

OK....back to your MAN CAVE programming.

I have no thread here. My story is inconsequencial and was finished long before I created this account. Its no different than any other, just change the names, places, circumstances. But, I know you ladies love a juicy story, so here goes:

I was married
We had a life
She had a crisis
I worked on things
We separated
I educated myself some more
We divorced
The End

For now, I choose to only participate in the Man Cave!

Thanks for loving my attitude. I'm a bit raw at times, but sometimes reality bites.

[elray]

I wasn't talking about the visual thing so much(although the preference for younger women is imposing) as the suspicion, I guess?  Like are all men going to view me as potentially crazy, money and status hungry?  And el, I am smh over that comment about height-I guess it is at least an easy way to weed out vapid stupidity.

Guys, at least the divorced guys I know who tend to be high earner,  are worse in person about that too.  Two factors at play-- paying alimony month after month.  And secondly, a lack of confidence. 

Remember each and every one of us was convinced we had found some one who wasn't like this; but at this point we concede that we have no special talent-- nothing more than an ape throwing darts... And paranoia sets in.

[Rookie13]

"no special talents - nothing more than an ape throwing darts"...Could barely type that out I was laughing so hard!  ..good one!! but speak for your self!  I have an extra long tongue! lol  ...(JK)

So, you realize your ordinary and that frightens you....Someone will come along (maybe even your wife) and realize your 'potential' and 'talents' and think they hit the jack pot...the 'beholder' thing applies here. Just have to get through the forrest to see it.

Thanks for the laugh!