[twiceburnt]

Hmm...I didn't even realize this thread existed lol.  In my case, woman have left me alone for the most part until recently.  I guess my W has a lot of people convinced we are officially divorced lol.  (not a single shred of legal stuff has been started). 

Even her favorite cousin's (they might as well be bro/sis) best friend's family is trying to hook me up with their cousin.  She wants to date me just from my pictures and their description of me (they know I'm a good guy and don't deserve this).  Not everyone believes the BS an MCLer spews.  She's cute, but I need to know more about her divorce...if she initiated...major red flags for me. 

And now an attractive woman from the gym has been hitting on me.  I ran into her at a "healthy" grocery store this past weekend.  Granted, I say healthy because they have organic veggies/fruits.  I grabbed some range fed Montana burger (the best) and a 6 pack of some locally brewed scotch ale.  lol  Range fed is healthy I guess.    Anyhow, she assumed I was a bachelor as a result and has been hitting on me since.  Which is nuts because most women leave me alone at the gym, but not her.  And I'm not ripped like I was a few years ago.  I've got some fat to lose now. 

Anyways, it is crazy how many people see us as targets.  Like we're knights in shining armor ready to save whatever friend/family member they feel fit because we're generally good, loyal guys.  Like they'll treat us better than our W's ever did (wouldn't take much I guess).  I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm pretty scorned and protective of my ego now.  Single doesn't seem so bad for a while.

[Mad Hatter]

Anyways, it is crazy how many people see us as targets.  Like we're knights in shining armor ready to save whatever friend/family member they feel fit because we're generally good, loyal guys.  Like they'll treat us better than our W's ever did (wouldn't take much I guess).  I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm pretty scorned and protective of my ego now.  Single doesn't seem so bad for a while.

It's almost like a conspiracy sometimes. Like it is a crime to be a successful, fit man and be single and enjoying yourself and focusing on you! As soon as word gets out, everyone is trying to hook you up with someone!

[Rookie13]

For me, I was damaged goods for quite some time in people's eyes..even woman at work who used to flirt with me while I wore a ring 'backed off'...Guess the writing was on the wall..err my face...

[terrified_in_TN]

Okay, so I am joining the discussion a little late...

I have to go with DJ on this.  I know it goes "against the grain" about being heathy and healing and all that, but I can either choose to stay home, sulk, and wallow in my own self pity, or get out and have fun.  Yes, I know...you don't NEED anyone to have fun by yourself.  I get it...but REALLY, who wants to go out to dinner and movie all by yourself?  CREEPY.

Maybe I hit the diamond in the rough, I don't know.  But the gal I am seeing now is 7 years older-past MLC check.  Past menopause check.  Its independent check.  Is fun to be with check.  Is attractive to me check.

Where is our relationship going?  Who knows.  Who cares.  We are both on the same page.  Oddly enough though she keeps telling me that she is my "rebound" and is okay with it.    I honestly think she just wants to get out and have fun too.  Of course neither one of us have any desire to end up in our old age alone.  Maybe we are meant for each other, maybe not.  We are both living one day at a time.  Oh, although she is a "baby momma", her youngest is 18.  She is about to be an empty nester.

Quick note-all the guys here have obviously been BADLY burned...we are amoung the lucky few whose spouses went MLC bat$hit crazy.  I know MLC is becoming more of a problem, and we are all treading with caution, but really...what are the odds of your next r to end up going MLC?  I would say pretty low-especially at our age.

Back on my sitch...okay, so granted...I cheated as far as everyone at work was encouraging me to date YOUNGER, I purposely sought out someone past all this midlife BS.

-T

[Braveheart]

Anyways, it is crazy how many people see us as targets.  Like we're knights in shining armor ready to save whatever friend/family member they feel fit because we're generally good, loyal guys.  Like they'll treat us better than our W's ever did (wouldn't take much I guess).  I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm pretty scorned and protective of my ego now.  Single doesn't seem so bad for a while.

Funny when it hit's you...Single ain't bad. It hit me when I was in the local grocery store on Valentines day last year. The place was full of harried husbands buying last minute roses and candy, none of them looked very happy about it. There I stood in my track pants and two days growth of beard suddenly smiling, I wasn't even aware it was Valentine's day. I took my bottle of merlot, steak and mushrooms home, did a fry up and watched "Flyboys" with the dog.

[Braveheart]

For me, I was damaged goods for quite some time in people's eyes..even woman at work who used to flirt with me while I wore a ring 'backed off'...Guess the writing was on the wall..err my face...

Yep, the smell of desperation I found a lot of people seemingly avoiding me, invites dried up as a newly single guy. A lot of our female friends acted like I must have done some terrible thing for my wife to have left ( the automatic assumption it seems) Even after it became known the kids were living with me full time things seemed "off" for a while. After a while I quit giving a damn what anyone thought and things changed.

[Rookie13]

Lol Brave, yep..must be that smell! lol

Women who 'seemed' to want to sleep with me while I was married , walked away quite easily when my ring came off..hmmmm

Maybe they figured there was no wife to destroy for them anymore so what's the use of sleeping with me now! lol..

[Dji76]

Agree bh and I'd take it a step further and say I'm enjoyin being single. I've accepted my w isn't the same person I knew and isn't coming back. I enjoy my alone time and spend most of it at the gym or with my guy friends. Adding in dating is just something else to do. Not looking for an ltr but I'm open to all possibilities... No expectations.
Rookie... Most women are all talk. Once your ring came off and sh!t was real their true colors come out. Suddenly you were no longer the harmless married guy.

[Thunder]

I told my H taking his wedding ring off wasn't the best idea if he wants to meet ladies.  lol

Single looks a lot scarier to women.

[Rookie13]

So what is it then with woman and married men??

All talk or A married man is more attractive because he is taken and a woman may decide they want him....

I, as a single male now, will look first at the woman, if she peaks my interest I will then look right to her rings finger, if she is wearing one I immediately put her out of sight/out of mind...If she is not..I may 'follow' her through out the store...