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From my point of view (and using the video link posted in the man cave as reference, The one Thundarr shared with his colleague) I would expect to receive such a picture from a woman that would be classed  as little bit crazy and little bit hot, someone you would keep in the friend zone to have lots of fun with, but not necessarily someone to marry or meet the family. The fact that she is sending you “the money shot” means you will be “getting yourself some of that”  very soon , not many men would turn that down. So while some may not find the picture appealing, the things that you are going to get from it are, the man is being mentally stimulated.

As an aside, while I was in the mode of searching through xW stuff, many of you may know that I found the sex video(s) of her and the OM at the time, there were also a number of pictures of her holding the guy’s junk in her hand (give away was the long, well manicured, painted nails). There were also a couple of pictures of them sat on the bed, back to the wall, knees up to the chest with there laptop resting on them, not sure how they took the pictures but I think they were watching videos of themselves. All of xW good were on display, and I think this was the stuff there were sharing with each other. 

I have to admit that I saw more of xW’s business in that computer file than I ever did in the whole of our marriage.


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Hey, if you guys say so then I believe you.  I always thought saying something like "I'm not wearing any panties" was sexier than the "money shot", until we got into the bedroom.

New flash- in general, most men are easy.  When I was out there all I really had to do was smile, maybe "accidentally" brush against my target and Boom, I was in.  I don't understand the need to whip out the "money shot", it seems so desperate, which to me is very unattractive.
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She used his iPad and I have been looking through the google history and knew it was her searches.  She put things like How to cook carrots.
I am not touching the twat shot comments with a ten-foot pole (pun intended).  But the carrot line gave me my laugh of the day.  Did she also search for "how to boil water"?

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Detach and Survive: A Book of Self-Care for the Wives of Midlife Crisis Men
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing, Susan Anderson
Healing the Shame that Binds You, John Bradshaw
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From another male's perception, I have always gone by the thought of less is more attractive.  Maybe I am just old-fashioned, but there is something to say about being dignified and confident, without having to show up all your "goods".  Don't get me wrong, I am not a prude, because I do like to see attractive women both fully clothed and scantily clad.  I do believe part of the male brain is arroused and hormonal releases at the site of female human flesh.   But to me, strip clubs were never about visual pleasure.  Although I did frequent them on rare occasions, it was not something I did on a routine basis.  More of a Guys Night Out. 

Sometimes I feel that people (either male or female) use photos of private areas to act like a little child and are visually screaming "Hey, look at me, I have to be noticed to feel alive"  I wonder how many people after all is said and done truly regret sending photos that later show up in the wrong places at the wrong times!
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Bailmor,

I completely agree with you.  Sexy can be just the slightest peek.

I never would send any naked pix over my cell.  I'd be too afraid I'd accidently send it to one of my kids or sisters.    :o

Imagine living that one down!   :-[
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Bailmor,

I completely agree with you.  Sexy can be just the slightest peek.

I never would send any naked pix over my cell.  I'd be too afraid I'd accidently send it to one of my kids or sisters.    :o

Imagine living that one down!   :-[

A male coworker of mine accidentally sent one to his brother in law...so funny.
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Yep, that'd be my luck.   :-[
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And with the way the cyber world is currently, those pictures NEVER are truly erased.  Nver know where they could show up!
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Exactly!  Surely not worth the risk.  Naked "in person" is much better and safer. 
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