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#30: April 11, 2012, 05:06:16 AM
I think my H is a clinging boomerang, several people on here seem to think he is.  He lives with OW, moved in with her the night he left.  He still comes home about twice a week to see the D's, takes care of things around the house when he's there, still pays the bills, everything but his clothes are there and his mail still comes there.  He does NOT ever say he wants to come back, and never gives me the indication that he regrets his decision.  I guess that is the part that throws me off, he seems to want to make it clear sometimes that he only comes over for the D's and when he's not home there is NO CONTACT, he doesn't call, text or anything.  This is some of the reason why I wonder if he would really be classified as clinging...
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#31: April 11, 2012, 08:30:16 PM
I think my W may be a Clinger.  I won't rehash all the details as most here are familiar with me but I would like opinions in this.  Thanks!
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#32: April 11, 2012, 08:51:39 PM
No question Thundarr - your W is a clinger.
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#33: July 22, 2012, 08:21:07 AM
Hi,

Posting because I tried to "join the group" but can't figure out how to do this. But I guess I will just get a notification anyway whenever someone writes since I am posting. Hi everyone!
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#34: October 26, 2012, 05:05:20 PM
Mine is definitely a Clinging Boomerang.  I do miss the clinging part of it but I grow so much more when he is in boomerang status.
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#35: October 26, 2012, 05:11:50 PM
Mine is a CB too............or a rubber ball that keeps bouncing back for more............now wheres that tennis racket or baseball bat lol xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#36: May 30, 2013, 07:41:42 PM
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I guess he is a clinger, but other wives with clingers have their husbands tell them they love them. I have not heard that in years.


I would label mine a clinger; he moved only 8 miles away, left almost all of his stuff here, calls S10 at least twice a day and I see him almost every weekend, mostly under the guise of seeing S10 but he offers wine and dinner and we chit chat. He also does not tell me he loves me. Like his tongue would fall off if those words came out of his mouth..... :(
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#37: May 30, 2013, 09:19:19 PM
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I guess he is a clinger, but other wives with clingers have their husbands tell them they love them. I have not heard that in years.


I would label mine a clinger; he moved only 8 miles away, left almost all of his stuff here, calls S10 at least twice a day and I see him almost every weekend, mostly under the guise of seeing S10 but he offers wine and dinner and we chit chat. He also does not tell me he loves me. Like his tongue would fall off if those words came out of his mouth..... :(

You can add me to that list; my wife moved 45 minutes away but I see her at least once a week, sometimes more. Heck, I've talked to her every day this week so far. Sometimes I don't hear from her for close to week.

The last time I heard her say "I love you" was months ago, and it was to the kids of some of our best friends. I did get an "I miss you" a couple of months after she moved out, but I can't remember the last time she told me she loved me. (Actually, that's not true; she did say it once about 6 months after BD; I think it was a reflexive response.)
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#38: August 18, 2013, 09:01:45 AM
I really don't know what mine is????
Sometimes he contacts me every 2 days and sometimes every4 days. He says its cause he wants to c the kids but we always end up talking about us. Last time we spent 46 mins on the phone talking about our relationship. He always insists that he was with me only for the kids and that he was 'trying'. I moved to my new place 3 weeks ago and he only came once to c the kids. I really don't know, any help pls   :'(
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Re: Clinging Boomerangs
#39: August 18, 2013, 05:33:33 PM

Does anyone know how long it take to settle into a contact "type" after the MLCer moves out of the home? I have read that they can change from one contact type to the other. Not sure if this usually happens after they move out or not.

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