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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: Valentines Day
#130: February 14, 2011, 12:41:10 PM
Quote from: Still on February 14, 2011, 12:33:30 PM
That's nice, Ready.

I got a note from my H this morning. It said, "I paid the mortgage, the checking account is low."

Not quite the Valentine note I was hoping for........
9 more words than I got, STILL,   :) :) :)
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Re: Valentines Day
#131: February 14, 2011, 12:45:05 PM
For me the part that hurts is not that he isn't getting me anything or even saying anything to me but that he hasn't
sent anything to D15.  I used to always remind him to send her flowers.  And that he will be giving OW a valentine :'(
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Re: Valentines Day
#132: February 14, 2011, 01:08:43 PM
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9 more words than I got, STILL,     

9 more words than I cared to get, OP.   
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Re: Valentines Day
#133: February 14, 2011, 02:22:42 PM
H has never been into V day. But I bought him some gourmet ice-cream and chocolate, and gave him a head message. He looked at me happily, and said "you spoil me, thank you Mermaid"

Just a happy day.
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Re: Valentines Day
#134: February 14, 2011, 02:35:59 PM
Whatever-
If you had to remind him to send her flowers, imagine the fog he's in right now with no reminder??
And it's not your job to remind him; get her some from you!

And you don't know if he got OW a valentine.maybe he did AND they are fighting right now because it wasn't what she wanted or wasn't expensive or thoughtful enough etc etc...
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Re: Valentines Day
#135: February 14, 2011, 02:53:42 PM
long haul;
you are right about that!  D15 actually got me flowers and said I'm sorry you are having a tough VD. 
I got her candy.
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Re: Valentines Day
#136: February 14, 2011, 03:03:37 PM
I say....Even if they do get their OW/OM's something for Vday....It has hollow meaning.

We know that "our" love for them is deeper then any "fantasy" they believe they are in today.

So Let'em! Do we really give a crap? I mean...it's just materialistic Bull$hit! :)

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Re: Valentines Day
#137: February 14, 2011, 03:13:09 PM
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And you don't know if he got OW a valentine.maybe he did AND they are fighting right now because it wasn't what she wanted or wasn't expensive or thoughtful enough etc etc...

Yes...I am sure most of the OW got grocery store flowers (as opposed to costco roses,lol) and a card with one of the creepy smiling dogs with human teeth that says "You make me smile." ;D ;D ;D ;D
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Re: Valentines Day
#138: February 14, 2011, 03:16:01 PM
Take this in account:

We all 'know" that it is a "fantasy" therefor its Not real...if the "love" isn't real. then the "gesture" isn't real.

SO it truly has NO meaning behind it.
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Re: Valentines Day
#139: February 14, 2011, 03:26:53 PM
Quote from: synicca on February 14, 2011, 03:16:01 PM
We all 'know" that it is a "fantasy" therefor its Not real...if the "love" isn't real. then the "gesture" isn't real.

SO it truly has NO meaning behind it.

So true!!!
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