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#90: September 16, 2017, 07:51:04 AM
Hey Bren hope u are feeling better thinking of u.
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#91: September 16, 2017, 10:54:32 AM
Best parts of vanishers....

I get to spend whatever I want on what I want... Within reason of course, I'm a teacher... But still.. Y'all know the kind of economic freedom comes with a vanisher... I dont have much but I have everything I need...

And now that includes the Saturday morning mani, pedi, and bikini wax.. With a massive venti Starbucks!!!!

Fixing to enjoy some much needed time with my Duke!!!!!

Happy happy Saturday y'all!!!!!
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#92: September 16, 2017, 11:26:04 AM
I like this game....

Best parts of vanishers.

No husband = no monster.

Plus

Since he vanished and left all his stuff, I sold it and traveled.

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#93: September 16, 2017, 02:21:13 PM
I'll play! The best part is I'm no longer just his designated driver and listening to his teasing me to make others laugh. And of course no MIL to compete with!!!
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#94: September 16, 2017, 02:55:36 PM
Oh Yes!!!  No MIL.... big plus.
 
Also...

I didn't realize until after he left that the big dark cloud over the house was HIM.
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#95: September 16, 2017, 04:38:42 PM
Same here the black cloud and walking on eggshells nothing made him happy always looking to create drama.
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#96: September 16, 2017, 05:15:56 PM
Best part of my now nearly vanisher: I don't have to clean up all the crap he left lying around. Trash, plates, socks, shoes, clothes, dirty pans, stiff all over the counters.

And I agree about the dark cloud. I thought I was unhappy, but I was only unhappy because I had someone gaslighting me, and I didn't realize it. I was amazed at how much I improved when my Wallower moved out.
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#97: September 16, 2017, 06:54:42 PM
Also him and his mother were the reason I got onto anti depressants both of em always supporting each other it was like he was married to her, she came before his kids/me thats how she trained him.
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#98: September 18, 2017, 03:11:57 PM
I've stamped my passport and travelled domestically more since he left than we did our entire marriage....and we travelled a lot!!! Ohhhhh... The airline miles!!!!

Something he completly forgot about during the d...

Oooooopppppsssss...

Mexico, three times, first class,all inclusive...

Fourth time was paid for by my friends...

He took all of the stuff, I never fought for it... Life is too short for stuff!!!!
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#99: September 18, 2017, 06:18:36 PM
 ;D ;D ;D  I love this MsM.....


Quote from: MsMedfly on September 18, 2017, 03:11:57 PM
I've stamped my passport and travelled domestically more since he left than we did our entire marriage....and we travelled a lot!!! Ohhhhh... The airline miles!!!!

Something he completly forgot about during the d...

Oooooopppppsssss...


Mine forgot a few items too....

Oooooooppppssss   ;D ;D ;D

Taking me off of his credit card was a big one.  I took one of my boyfriends on a three day weekend on an Island.  It happened to land on our anniversary so when the Leaver noticed the charges I told him it was his last anniversary present to me.  ;D ;D ;D

and this....
Quote from: MsMedfly on September 18, 2017, 03:11:57 PM
I've stamped my passport and travelled domestically more since he left than we did our entire marriage....and we travelled a lot!!! Ohhhhh... The airline miles!!!!

Yes, I couldn't agree more.  There will always be an excuse not to do it,... make traveling a priority, if not now, then when??

I too have traveled more since BD, then the 30 years before he left.  I would have NEVER done these things if Mr. Complainy-pants was still weighing me down.
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