[superdog]

Got to say I agree anjae. I don't think that they learn anything or fix anything. In fact I see the ow as just something else to add to their long line of issues.

My h dropped into a rant not that long ago, how all he ever did was sort out other peoples issues. I asked whose issues cos it's definitely not mine, And he accused me of being a smart ass. he did this because it was her issues that's he was sorting out and  he just realised what he had said. Looks like mrs needy became a Pain in the ass.

That's what these women are, needy. Needy for attention, needy for validation, needy and need rescued.

they may well be a mirror in terms if their issues, but neither have what it takes to fix the other.

I think it may be far more simplistic, it's another females attention they fall for, not what they look like or even who they are inside. The OP will tell the mlcer whatever they want to hear to keep the attention going.

My h has worked with this OP for 10 years but only "noticed" her when mlc hit 5 years ago. Funny that.

It's just a lot of absolute rubbish they spout to us, anything to justify their behaviour. I could find lots of things in common with someone who pretends to like the things I like just to maintain my attention. I would eventually find them out though, just like the mlcer does.

At first I was jealous, not of her per say as she has nothing I admire, however I was jealous of what my h told me she meant to him. That took a long time to get over. But get over it I did.

He was right all along they are exactly alike. He will never be like me, he is too far behind.

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[forthetrees]

I´m wondering what percent of OPs already knew the LBS in some way. Ex´s had been to house. Ex used to mention her now and again BEFORE she came and some time after she came he stopped mentioning her. That should have been a clue to me. (slow learner)

Since many are co-workers, I think it´s the lazy aspect of human nature to go with the path of least effort.

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That's what these women are, needy. Needy for attention, needy for validation, needy and need rescued.

they may well be a mirror in terms if their issues, but neither have what it takes to fix the other.

I think it may be far more simplistic, it's another females attention they fall for, not what they look like or even who they are inside. The OP will tell the mlcer whatever they want to hear to keep the attention going.

This describes H's OP quite well

Early on my H told me that she need help and he was helping her - he made a comment about her pending divorce and how she doesn't have her daughter (I found out later that was all her doing) and she needed someone to talk to - maybe this was just H's justifications to me about why he was getting involved.

[superdog]

FTT totally agree with the lazy aspect. That's what makes me laugh about suddenly their co-worker is their soulmate. Really?

My h works in the British version of corrections and it's a male establishment. OP is a nursing assistant and there is a Really small percentage of women in the place. For as long as h has been working there I have watched these women play the room at nights out as they have such a captured audience of men. It's so bizarre, doesn't matter if they have a face like a fat bulls arse they get the guys wrapped round their little fingers. H just fell for it in the end.

They work shifts and their co workers are the only ones available to them whilst everyone else is at work. They all socialise with each other and rarely anyone else.

A couple of my friends marriages went down the tubes thanks to these women.

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[superdog]

S4A, how many women do you know who have problems who would need to turn to some guy to talk to. We would turn to our female friends wouldn't we. What a lot of rubbish, I got the same story.

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[SSG]

OW secret FB messages to H before BD (she was married at the time for 25 years.)  And every day asking H if he loved her   She is an Emotional Manipulator in the highest order...this is just a sampling.


OW  -  When l found you was sure you are right for me, but in that time it was pure hopeless. And even when i knew it, couldn t stop love you.

OW =  i know it is dream, Just want live some normal life, with you. No more, no less

OW -  I think you can do everything what do you want and I ll love you...is only one exception-never lie me, hate lies
 OW - no, no lies...lies are everytime start of end...and I told you you are defintelly last man of my life.:-)

OW -  you keep me alive, it is yours job:-)

OW -  ..i know you won t believe ne, but I just don t have interest about sex with any other man...you are made for me:-). maybe made to order:-), made in heaven

OW - don t have already too much power survive .More and more often I m deep in depression and work only because I do it all my life, no pleasure, only custom. I made all what was possible to be with you and cant turn cours of my life .  If you don't come jus kill me.

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S4A, how many women do you know who have problems who would need to turn to some guy to talk to. We would turn to our female friends wouldn't we. What a lot of rubbish, I got the same story.

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You are right

Since many are co-workers, I think it´s the lazy aspect of human nature to go with the path of least effort.

Lol.........I see my H as being lazy with thus too. I do think that the OP does most of the work to keep him engaged.

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Does anyone else find it strange that we have so much information on OP? I guess it is just part of the MLC crazy - I think if it was a nonMLC affair that we wouldn't know so much about the OP. I know some of this comes from snooping but a lot of it comes directly from the MLCer. 

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Not sure why Searching....  I knew my H's  OW, as she was a good friend of mine.  I did not have to snoop far...his secret FB name and password was in his wallet, next to his secret Viagra script 

He was bragging to me before BD he had a secret FB name...almost like, na, na, na na...na.   

Had to look after that remark.  Someone told me,, if they leave stuff like that in their wallets or not really hidden, they want someone to find it.  Anyone heard of that before?

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[kikki]

Someone told me,, if they leave stuff like that in their wallets or not really hidden, they want someone to find it.  Anyone heard of that before?

I hadn't heard of that before, but that would seem right.
The way they drop hints and try to get a reaction out of us, that would then (in their minds) justify their decision to leave.

Looking back, I can see this was what a small piece of paper with a love heart and a large X on it was all about.  Planted for me to find.

I'm another one who knew the personality dead OW.  She had been in our home (during what I now know to be the beginning of my H's rescue mode), and knew us as a family. 
Also someone my H worked with.