You’re welcome, Freddy.
Yes, you had it right. But I was wondering if I was the only one with a spouse that keeps bringing absurd court cases upon me. Now I know I’m not.
No way I’m near to financial stability. Husband is aware my job is gone for awile, that I have health issues that do not allow for a regular job, but, its been 5 years and I have not seen a penny from him.
His reasons for court cases are that he had to left because of me, that I have never helped him, that I spent too much, and do on. Also, that we was the only one that earned money during our marriage. Not true. I’ve worked hard on the projects with both created and have had several jobs. Plus, even if I have never done a thing, he had married me, accept the situation and, therefore, he can not have that for a reason to divorce.
Of course he does not says the court that there was OW1, that he left (before BD), stopped contributing with money, took all the money from our bank accounts, manage to put and end to our joint projects and so on.
Now, at least I'm certain it is OW2 who is behind the crazy court cases. He never filled for divorce during OW1. She was the typo of other person that fears the spouse and would never wanted to see herself into such a messy thing as a court case. OW2, on the other hand, is the sort that wants to be me, have my live and would very much enjoy if I notice her existence. Given that my husband had is first fault divorce closed for lack of proofs of his claims (the are none), he come up with a second one. Where we live you can only file for fault divorce on the county you live. So, we opened the case with an address from another county. My lawyer pointed out he does not live in such county. His lawyer contestation said “it is the address of Mr Jones current companion”.
Thing his, Mr Jones current companion in reality lives with Mr Jones in the couty he lives in, has all her legal addresses in the same county (even street and flat) that Mr Jones. The other address is from some property she owns. Thing number two, Mr Jones is married, a current companion means adultery and valid reason for a fault divorce from Mr Jones spouse. Now, Mr Jones spouse does not even need, if she wants, to try to prove that Mr Jones is living with someone. He already said it in a court legal document.
And no, this not like murder, that are no mitigating circustances and no deal. How out of one mind does a person who is taking the wife to court because she was a bad wife, needs to be to say that he is using an address that belong to current companion? Totally out of their minds?
Of course I know that it is just OW2 showing me she exists and trying to make go mad. And, perhaps, even contact her. Or star phoning husband (he is a vanisher) and asking him what is that stuff about current companion. So such luck , my lawyer will deal with the two of them according to the law.
Also, my husband’s lawyer is a friend of other woman. My husband knows nothing about law, I was always the one that took care of the legal matters, he is still very angry with himself (of course he thinks he is angry at me), and quite vulnerable. A very easy prey to a charming “oh, my darling, you need to get rid of that terrible wife of yours” OW. And OW2 is even more charming than OW1. She has charmed husband’s relatives, some of mine and his mutual friends, and all his and hers new friends.
She, of course, just like your wife OM, is trying to destroy and gain all she can, while pretending to save and care very much for him and all those that are close to him. Except his wife, of course!
I have to disagree, Freddy, months remaining to retain something for next year when again I may have no work, a narcissistic alienator manages to diciave almost anyone. At least OW2 has managed that. Maybe when she will get what she wants (but to that he will need to be divorced and keep all our assets for himself, something that I find hard to happen, even because it is illegal) she will dump him. For the time being she’s living the high life, gained access to a semi-famous (in our country) cultural and artistic circle, and has copy cat me in many things.
Have no idea how her past was, if there was abuse of not. I’m not interested in found out.
But you are right, they can be dangerous. I’ve realised that. OW2 is dangerous. OW1 was innocuous, juts the type who wants to offer some solace to an unhappy married man.
Any tips to deal with a husband in MLC with a narcissistic other woman that is helping him taking me to court, while being adorable to everyone?
Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. (Marilyn Monroe)
The Alienator??? Many questions.....
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