[Bewildered]

Stayed H did and want happy ash her
makes them stereotypes and as my h always saw himself as unique this sorta says
N0000000000000000000000 you are a stereotypical man/dont think women in MLC says this do they??
 who is having a MLC and you are really lucky you have us (LBS) as we are not stereotypical !!

if you do let us know his reaction 

[Faith]

I haven't read the entire thread yet, but I've heard tons of those!  Here are a few more of my H's favorites.

I am DONE
I'm looking out for #1 now
we aren't good together
You make me have to lie, I don't like doing it but I have no choice
You should have known I wasn't happy
When a marriage is right it doesn't take work
I am a GREAT dad (he feels the need to tell me this regularly)
We want different things in life
You want me to be someone I'm not
I tried for 19 years...I have nothing left to give

And my all time favorite - If I'm happy, the kids will be happy.   

[Synicca]

oh I just had to jump in here too...

of course the obvious..

I love you but not in love with you
I wasn't looking for it, It just happened ( with OW )
I think there is something more out there for me
We shouldn't have remarried 5 years ago
You havent loved me for a long time
Maybe you should have put your foot down more. Wha?? really? 
I KNOW I am in love with OW
She is the best thing that ever happened to me
You never show me affection


I still love you
Please, give me some time
I am so confused
I want to be with you, but can't leave OW
I am leaving OW
give me a month
give me a week
I miss you

And I believe that with regards to the above statement...Isn't the MLCer reliving some childhood stuff anyway? SO why wouldn't all these excuses resemble young teenage behaviour? Makes sense to me.

[In this for ME]

Probably ...the whole thing is pretty teenage...

I've gotten recently now that OW is out of the picture;

I still have love for you..
I will always love you..

WOW

 I wonder what kind of love?

Is it the "Hold  on until I can figure out if I want someone else" kind

                               or maybe the

 "Get on with your life;but we can still be friends" kind

                                or maybe it's the

               "Your the mother of my children" kind         

[Faith]

Accidentally finding the "midlife crisis for dummies" was what made me FINALLY realize what was happening to my H and regain a bit of my sanity!  What is so sad is, my H told me multiple times that "NOBODY has been where he is" and can understand the depths of his misery.  I have tried to remind him that some people's children have cancer, or their entire families die in car wrecks.  THAT is suffering.  But he truly believes that his anguish surpasses all and that nobody can possibly understand. 

They all think they are so unique in their "suffering" when in reality MLCers are all THE SAME!  All of us are astonished at their sameness.  I wish there was a way to make them see how pathetic they really are.

Edited to add that I realize this sounds a little bitter, but reading the crap that they ALL spew makes me wanna spew too.   

[LoveMeMyself]

AMEN, Faith.  That just goes to show you how selfish they are in their crisis.  I couldn't have said this any better.

[Bewildered]

I second LMM as MLC is a selfish crisis its about them and only them and oh yes only them .. xx

not very satisfying to be so in love with themselves and when something happens to them that makes them look around for support - guess who will be there to help them .. yes just them and when they have  a good moment they will look around to share it with someone they really care about and again there will be just them

I think they will come out of MLC eventually from sheer boredom alone as the OP is either in her/his MLC or is a very odd person  (as anyone wanting my H at the moment except for a free meal or two is seriously strange)
love B

[StandandDeliver]

At our break up,

"I think you are going to be happy about this way sooner than you think."

About introducing kids to OW,

"This will serve as a blueprint for when you eventually find a "special friend"" (seriously, I almost choked on my drink when he said , and incidentally he has not even followed his own "blueprint")

Just the other day,

"I think we could only have saved our marriage if we had gone to counselling many, many years ago." Um, we have had 2 babies in that time and I am fairly sure I was there when we made a considered choice about this. They were not born into a "loveless" marriage.

and,

"If we were ever to get back together, I think it could only happen if we divorced first". Excuuuse me?

You know I think that with our combined efforts we could make a very funny sitcom out of our personal tragedies, if it hadn't been my H saying those things I would have peed my pants laughing.

[StandandDeliver]

Bewildered, "I second LMM as MLC is a selfish crisis its about them and only them and oh yes only them .. xx"

I agree. My sister also made the point that an MLC is really a "high-class problem". You don't hear much about MLC in societies where basic needs are not being met, people simply don't have the time to be that self-indulgent when they are still fighting to acquire basic needs such as food and shelter.

I would like to have a MLC (looks like fun - no responsibility, lots of sex, indulging in a spendathon on designer clothes for me and furniture for my own chick pad), but mine will have to wait as I have two young children and an errant spouse  .

[StandandDeliver]

Oooooh,

I thought of 2 more. This in a goodbye letter:

1. "I want you to know that you are magnificent; you have the capacity to change the world, for me it is only a dream" Really? Magnificent? So you are leaving because? Oh and for me in recent months, H having the capacity to change a diaper has been a only a dream.

This in a goodbye email:

"I have mentioned many times that I am usually speechless when reading things you have written. Over the past months I had started to look for places that you could submit things you wrote and there were a few I found and thought I’d send you now. The first two are very, very flexible publications and highly respected – you know of one of them at least."

Are you serious? You  have just left me a week ago with sole responsibility of 2 youngsters, the necessity of getting a full-time job and the requirement to move in order to do that, all while remaining in a foreign country, away from my closest friends and family who could support me. Um, I don't think writing the next bestseller is on the cards for me right now - guilt talking? "I had an affair, dumped you for the little tart, am attempting to give you as little financial support as I can get away with, but I am still a nice guy - I care about your hobby writing".