[LettingGo]

Well, I already bought new leopard print towels for me, so my husband could have my old/new ones.... so a new towel is "out", LOL!

He is telling me he wants to take me to Atlantic City for the 13th, and by some miracle, I'm off work that day and ALSO the 14th, so it's "do-able".... he also suggested that if we just booked a room at the local Crown Plaza, we wouldn't have to get anyone to sit with the kids..... I said, "we're not having sex, so getting a local hotel room seems like a waste..." He says he "gets that" and so will try for Atlantic City... that would actually be fun, believe it or not!

I'm undecided about getting him a card.... WTH would it say? "Thank you for spending THIS V-Day with me instead of OW like you did last year?" or "even though you're not really "feeling it" I appreciate the effort..." 

I mean, if he gets me a card and takes me somewhere for a drink, why do I have to reciprocate??? He needs to woo ME.... not the other way around. 

[Faith]

I love the idea of doing something special for ourselves - especially the ring idea!!  I've been toying with the idea of buying myself a new inexpensive ring anyway to wear in place of my wedding ring.  I'm having such a hard time making myself wear it lately since the promises it symbolized were a lie.  I also am beginning to feel like a fool wearing it since H hasn't worn his for most of the past two years.

Anyway, my D has a basketball game on valentines day so at least there won't be that awkwardness of "we should be going out or something but we're not".
 

I'm undecided about getting him a card.... WTH would it say? "Thank you for spending THIS V-Day with me instead of OW like you did last year?" or "even though you're not really "feeling it" I appreciate the effort..." 

Hahahaha!!  You may have a million dollar idea there!  "Alternative" Valentines Day cards!!

[Shantilly Lace]

Roses are red
Violets are blue
If you mention ow
I'll emasculate you

Hallmark here I come

[forthetrees]

This is for  the ladies who are looking for a self-treat; a woman named Amy Peters makes silver inspirational rings- I bought two and they are my 24/7 therapy. One says TRUST CHANGE ACCEPT GROW and  the other says COURAGE STRENGTH HOPE WISDOM. I still wear the wedding ring, but the new ring is closer to my heart- one step removed. She has a website- check it out and treat yourself. The only downside is that the rings are a wee on the big side and after the LBS diet one needs smaller rings.

[Rebel Yell]

Flame me everyone, I just asked W if she wanted to do something for Valentines. We'll probably go out to eat.
I wish I knew what she is thinking. If I ask her to do stuff, she does. I don't want to push her back farther in the
tunnel. I really believe in my case if I hadn't asked her to do something she would have thought to herself "see,
he doesn't REALLY love me".
Maybe I'll join the circus as a tightrope walker.

[BonBon]

If you've decided to get a card, isn't it awful?  I keep trying to find an appropriate card....the ones I find always say things that I don't feel right now...or at least that don't apply to the MLC monster persona.  It's brutal. 

Faith, hope you got yourself a ring.  I've already purchased three pieces of jewelry since this started!
They aren't all that expensive but they make me feel good....if H every asks about them I'm just going to say "because they are all about ME!"  HA!
 
Bonnie

[StillStanding]

I looked thru the "just a friend" cards and found one that just said something like "I hope your Valentine's Day is special."

No declarations of love or happiness.

[Faith]

Ack...V-Day is looming ever closer.  I really hope my H doesn't acknowledge it at all, but I don't think I'll be that lucky.  He'll want to try to look good to the kids.  A card or gift out of obligation is much worse than getting nothing.  On a day that supposed to honor "love", why would you celebrate it with someone you repeatedly say you don't love??  The madness that is the MLC mind....

[Synicca]

I think most of us are on the same page.

I thought about buying myself some flowers..actually writing in the card.."Happy Vday Girl!  Love yourself today!"

I have also walked by the cards several times! ugh! But H would just have to hide it from OW.

I bought him a christmas gift, he loved it, H said...well atleast I got something from you, OW didn't get me a damn
thing except her back going through the Airport lobby. ( to bad she returned )

Ha!

I think I'll get my H a simple card just in case. Never know what tomorrow will bring!

Hugs everyone!

[whatever]

I'm struggling so much with V day.  I talked to h about it and he said "Don't get me anything" and I said
"why because you don't feel the same about me?" and he said "Don't get me anything" .  My heart
is telling torn.  He knows I'm madly in love with him but the thought of a card will bring up close
and personal what he threw away.  I think I'll get a card and on the inside write.  This was so
true of us once....too bad you are divorcing me.